Feeling tired & not enjoying gigs

[Charlie Brown]

I can understand that. It's not the easiest thing to do, to get motivated when your're tired. If you've got time, thought about the gym to get your fitness/energy levels up?

One thing I must say about you is that you seem to be an honest lad. Wear your heart on your sleeve (nothing wrong with that).

Thanks. I like to think I am.

I've thought about the gym but it's not really my cup of tea. I've never really been a fitness freak.

I used to get a real buzz from working but there doesn't seem to be any sparkle or excitement anymore.

, Charlie I think your in the wrong job if your not enjoying it buddy

Exactly what I've been thinking for a while. When I told Mum she said ' What do you expect! Your a growing lad blah blah'

[Kernow]

I can understand that. It's not the easiest thing to do, to get motivated when your're tired. If you've got time, thought about the gym to get your fitness/energy levels up?

One thing I must say about you is that you seem to be an honest lad. Wear your heart on your sleeve (nothing wrong with that).

Or maybe a little more sleep when the opportunity is there, and not staying up half the night on forums & facebook ?
C'mon Charlie get back that buzz we all so admire in you

[Shakermaker Promotions]

I was just 19 when I started DJing and it was full on within months. I was doing a full time job working as a window fabricator in a factory from 8.00am - 4.00pm and also DJing 3 nights a week (Mon, Thurs & Fri) in a club from 9.00pm - 02.00am. Mondays were the worst as I also did Karate from 6.00pm - 8.00pm but I was a lot younger then and used to do this thing called SLEEP whenever I could...I even had a lay-in from time to time!

Midweek gigs do me in a bit but now and I don't do a full time job anymore. My sleep pattern is wrecked and I have been used to around 6 hours for the past 15 years (unless I'm ill).

Charlie, you're young. You should have loads of energy mate and be loving every minute of it. I reckon you are simply trying too hard with the Disco thing and not enjoying it but we all have times like that. I'll be honest here mate but I reckon DJing as a business may not be for you. It's probably gone from a hobby that you enjoyed and then you've seen people doing well on here running businesses and have taken on too much work...not too much in that you're booked 3 or 4 times a week but too much in that it isn't a hobby or enjoyable anymore.

I also think that again, at your age you want to go out socialising more than you want to DJ. You work full time and are obviously saying you're tired but you have commitments to bookings because you've taken them on and more than likely at times, would rather go out on the town with your mates or chill out rather than do a party for someone when your mind isn't in it. Don't get me wrong but if you are feeling like this then it will show and you may end up getting yourself a bad name.

What you need to do is take a break away from it for a few months. Concentrate on doing the 9-5 and see if you miss the DJing or pick and choose when you want to work (once a month?) and that way you may really look forward to it and it's still an extra few quid in your pocket.

I did the exact same thing mate - A few years back I was DJing 5 nights a week and that's all I did as I was working for someone else at the time. I didn't enjoy it at times and it became 'just a job' rather than something I loved doing so I stopped doing it for a year and tried to get myself a career doing something else. I got a really decent job (luckily) and enjoyed working 9-5 with my evenings and weekends free to myself but then I started to get the itch to do it again. I eased myself in with 1 or 2 gigs a month and then started to realise that I actually wanted to do it as a business and never work for anyone else again so I went full on.

The thing is....not many people get to do something they love and make a living out of it being their own boss. I feel very fortunate as I am sure others do on here but it's hard work.

All I can see from the way you've posted is it being not for you...well, maybe not at this moment in time anyway.

[Charlie Brown]

Interesting post Gary. Thanks for sharing. I don't want to be a DJ for ever. Ideally, I would like to have a few business's. Perhaps this whole sector is the wrong way forward.

Funny thing is...they all loved last night and I got a tip but didn't enjoy it personally. It's probably a moody teenage crisis I'm going through ATM.

I'll go into town after my gig tonight...I'm looking forward to that. I think I just miss people my age. Miss messing around and being silly. I'm sat in reception now with a lovely 30 year old. We get on really well but there is only so much I can take with her yapping on about her step son and him doing well at swimming!

[Stu]

A little tip which i found helped me, do more gigs for people your own age.

I'm 22 and have been DJing parties since i was 16, weddings since i was 18. Generally speaking, I hate weddings. They don't interest me, but i can do them well and the pay is good so i do them. However, i love doing 16th's, 18th's, 21st's, school proms, uni balls, bars and clubs. So i do as many of them as possible and then fill in around them with Weddings. That way i get the best of both worlds, still enjoy my job most of the time yet still earn a good crust over the year.

Might be worth a thought Charlie.

[Paul The Party Dj]

Charlie, I get the feeling your passion is being in business and not being a DJ.
There's no problem in that, but it does mean that you have a different perspective to some of the members here.

If you still want to have time with people of just your age then schedule time to do that. Pick one or more times a week when you are just going to do the stuff 17 year olds want to do. If that means you don't take disco bookings at those times then so be it - the decision is yours.

The fact that older people talk to you like an adult is a good thing - but if you aren't interested in what they have to say unless it's to your benefit then you should look at yourself.

Many of us older DJ's have held down multiple jobs at times in our lives because we chose to - circumstances often made us work a lot harder than we might have liked because of our responsibilities - but it was our choice. What you do every moment of every day is your decision - if you don't like it then change it.

Cheers, Paul

[nisfo]

Just don't stress over it.

Stress & lack of needed sleep can be a viscous circle and make you really ill.

When I first brought my house, I worked 12 hour weekdays and 10 hours Saturday & Sunday for 9 months. And still fitted gigs in. Tough times though.

Now I own my house, so I can chill out more than I would have been able to if I didn't do all of those hours.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

True. But if I'm not enjoying it then what's the point.

Do you really think that I have enjoyed every moment of the last 27 years?

Don't you think there are times when I really don't feel like it?

Sorry, I have no sympathy for this Charlie. You are 17 and have only recently started working!

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I'll go into town after my gig tonight...

So, you're so knackered that you are going into town after your gig?

[MBK]

Do you really think that I have enjoyed every moment of the last 27 years?

Don't you think there are times when I really don't feel like it?

Sorry, I have no sympathy for this Charlie. You are 17 and have only recently started working!



So, you're so knackered that you are going into town after your gig?

I have to agree life and work isn't easy.

My sons do exactly the same thing say they are so knackered sit in the lounge falling asleep then the phone rings and they go out to the town and get in in wee small hours get up moaning that they are so knackered.

[Charlie Brown]

Might be worth a thought Charlie.

Indeed! And for me it's the other way round. I hate the teenage gigs but love the older music/challenge weddings and 50ths/60ths give me. I've decided to turn down the teenage gigs...which is quite a lot. Average - 3 a month.

Charlie, I get the feeling your passion is being in business and not being a DJ.
There's no problem in that, but it does mean that you have a different perspective to some of the members here.

You've hit the nail on the head. I've realised (no disrespect to people on here) but you can't make mega mega mega bucks by DJing/owning a agency...unless it's international of course.

I do enjoy older company. I'm called the 17 going on 70 year old in the office. I enjoy working and mixing with older people but miss 'messing around' occasionally with folk my age.

I'm not sure what I want to do yet....

And who started a thread? I certainly didn't!