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Disco Dude!
Just let them get on with it, who knows it may work...if it doesn't they ditch the karaoke and have a good night.
It does read to me as you mentioned so many other people agreeing with you and intend to be in the car on the way back that this is just more of an opinion you've kept to yourself?
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Dinosaur
Originally Posted by
DazzyD
It's not often I disagree with Peter but I'd stay out of it. Choosing the entertainment is not the remit of the Best Man.
That would be because I'm usually right.
I actually suggested offering to source suitable suppliers, and if that was not accepted, then keep right out.
Originally Posted by
DazzyD
It really is as easy as Martin makes it out to be...
Actually, in my book, it's the hardest possible course of action. Sitting and watching someone making an absolute Horlicks of a job you could have and would have done satisfactorily is hard to bear, and for me would prevent me enjoying that part of the festivities.
Personally, I'd have been inclined not to buy them the Crinoline Lady Novelty Toilet Roll Cover, and " give " them the disco as their wedding present. It would cost you very little ( as obviously, you wouldn't be turning down any other work ) and you'd have had the warm feeling of knowing that you'd ensured that the evening had a steady hand on the tiller.
Just my own personal views, no way am I claiming I'm right, in fact in this case, I really hope I'm wrong. Can't wait for the post-gig report though.
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Originally Posted by
DeckstarDeluxe
Just let them get on with it, who knows it may work...if it doesn't they ditch the karaoke and have a good night.
It does read to me as you mentioned so many other people agreeing with you and intend to be in the car on the way back that this is just more of an opinion you've kept to yourself?
If you mean nobody's discussed it with Bridey - then no then haven't. I don't think anybody's brave enough for that one at the moment. Numerous guests (admittedly of the older generations) have been discussing between themselves though.
Originally Posted by
Excalibur
That would be because I'm usually right.
I actually suggested offering to source suitable suppliers, and if that was not accepted, then keep right out.
Can't disagree with you Peter - you haven't given me dud advice yet
Originally Posted by
Excalibur
Actually, in my book, it's the hardest possible course of action. Sitting and watching someone making an absolute Horlicks of a job you could have and would have done satisfactorily is hard to bear, and for me would prevent me enjoying that part of the festivities.
Again, can't disagree. BUT - I don't want to do the job. They've got someone booked, and it's not my place to go recommending other suppliers.
My original question was....would it be prudent to take a small rig just in case it goes belly up bearing in mind what they've got planned and the comments from other guests so far, not me saying I want to take over and run the evening's entertainment. It was meant as an emergency measure only to bail things out should it go horribly wrong for them, i.e. guests start to disappear in droves etc. or heaven forbid, the mate doesn't deliver.
As someone further up quite rightly said, it's not my gig, never has been and I don't want it to be. My thoughts though were to be available on standby in case of emergency, without even mentioning I had the kit with me unless needed.
Originally Posted by
Excalibur
Personally, I'd have been inclined not to buy them the Crinoline Lady Novelty Toilet Roll Cover, and " give " them the disco as their wedding present. It would cost you very little ( as obviously, you wouldn't be turning down any other work ) and you'd have had the warm feeling of knowing that you'd ensured that the evening had a steady hand on the tiller.
The thought had crossed my mind, as it had with one of my other brothers in law who's a professional TOG. However, we've both got other "jobs" on the day, and deserve a night off as well.
Originally Posted by
Excalibur
Can't wait for the post-gig report though.
I'm really hoping it's going to be a positive one Peter.
OK - decision made, I'm staying well clear and not taking anything with me which I don't need to perform my best man duties. Rightly or wrongly, they've made the decisions they've made for whatever reasons, it's their day and their reception. Who knows, it could turn out to be one of the best wedding receptions I've ever been to and lead to some ideas for my own business
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Dinosaur
Originally Posted by
Imagine
My original question was....would it be prudent to take a small rig just in case it goes belly up bearing in mind what they've got planned and the comments from other guests so far, not me saying I want to take over and run the evening's entertainment. It was meant as an emergency measure only to bail things out should it go horribly wrong for them, i.e. guests start to disappear in droves etc. or heaven forbid, the mate doesn't deliver.
Then I will answer the original question with a blunt: NO.
On most other occasions, I'd give a resounding yes, but it's clear that help is neither being sought, nor would it be appreciated probably. So be it.
Wayne, I really hope that you and your family and friends have a brilliant time, and that Disco/KJ #2 is absolutely awesome. Hope it goes well for all concerned.
I hope you'll understand if I don't hold my breath though.
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Agree with the others. If they know you are a dj and haven't asked you then they obviously don't want you. I have done disco's for family members and also attended functions for other family members where they decided to do something different.
IF they ASK for your help or opinion then by all means give them the benefit but otherwise I am afraid you will just have to go with the flow. It is generally accepted that the wedding is ultimately the bride's day; so if that's what she want then that is what she wants. You evidently don't like her. Maybe the feeling is mutual and that is why she doesn't want you doing her disco.
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