Let's start at the beginning then
What lighting are you currently using? Can it be made to run on a static colour at all?
The most important thing I've found is to speak to the B&G, and probably more importantly the photographer (they don't normally like a lot of dots and it's one of the most important photos they do..)
For my part, I use an Equinox booth dressed in white with a starcloth underneath which is set to static during the first dance, two aluminium podiums which are uplit to the B&G's preference of colour (again static). These have on top my pair of Spherions (the only "dots" I use for the first dance) and if needed, a little colour wash from some LED PAR's - that's literally it.
A big NO-NO is smoke/haze - it makes the TOG's flash act as a filter unless you've got a really good quality TOG there. If not, 9 times out of 10 they'll have their flash bounce back off the haze and no photos.
Once the first dance is over, it's obviously open season for everything to flash and spin as normal