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[Dragonfly]

thought id start this thread as i dont want to get smacked botty from the good proprieters of this good site.......


totally misunderstood what i was trying to say ..... my fault sorry ill try and think how to word it on a forum easy in speech ......

probably no better but ...... i'm thinking that certainly for the last 12 months now i may?? have been getting to preoccupied with the must be smart , must get everything spot on for the bride and groom etc musnt be mr peter kay mr cheese you know all the dont do things we see every week on the forum getting worried from wednesday on that everything is spot on for the weekend .


i now have a single gig left before retirement and ok im sorry but ill admit it as im big enough to do so and get spanked and shouted at but the last two gigs the retiring has been at the front of my mind and i have not surpressed the "well what are you going to do if i fluff up tell everyone im rubbish" thoughts quite as much as i used to as im not taking any more bookings , yes i have been professional and smart and done everything the same as i always have just not been hung up if it all goes pear shaped as "ive only got 3 weeks left" yes wrong attittude totally i agree.


but with this new slightly lighter attitude and not so much scrutiny of every little detail ..... ive had two of my best gigs ever??? just makes you wonder if it is possible to put too much emphisis on the wrong things.

in a way i feel i have tapered my personality to fit a model of what a professional should be and do and say within a gig setting and the last 2 ive reverted to cheeky dragon that can get away with saying and doing things that most people get beaten up for saying and doing and slated on the forum for doing by some not all .... but some ..and its had fantastic results????


Indeed its called being positive. I was on a crisis management course a few years ago and the speaker told us "Say to yourself 'stay calm' dont say to yourself 'dont panic' because your brain just picks up on the word panic".


Is this the sign of a comeback Dave:D :D :D

CRAZY K

nah Crazy just opened my eyes a bit and thought such a discussion could be helpful. i can't be doing with drooling drunks anymore and finding babysitters and being home at 3am.

incidentally 2 more incidents that are a first this week got asked if i was "available" ....... and not for a disco ..... twice this week once by a woman on the answerphone who had seen the website and on saturday nights gig too ......


i really must have started to exude a totally different vibe altogether?

[Ryu]

I think I know what your talking about....My old man has been the same since I joined up with him. He knows he's finishing at the end of the year, and so for him the pressure is off, I'll be taking over, so I've been doing all the worrying. I must admit, I've had to reign him in once or twice and have had to grit my teeth when he "accidentally" plays a track I played a few hours back...Fortunately, his relaxed attitude has had a better effect...if anything, his laidback approach has made me feel a bit like a jobsworth for being so tense about getting everything right all the time...

[Shaun]

Surely it's all about find a balance between having as much fun as you can and being as professional as you can?

Glad to hear you're enjoying your final gigs Dave. :)

[Ryu]

Surely it's all about find a balance between having as much fun as you can and being as professional as you can?

Glad to hear you're enjoying your final gigs Dave. :)

I agree, striking the balance, especially when things aren't going so well, is easier said than done. In my case anyway, my dad and I work well together...I make him take things more seriously, he gets me to relax!

Anyway, like I say, I understand where Dave is coming from, from an objective viewpoint. Good luck for your last few gigs!

[JAMdisco]

incidentally 2 more incidents that are a first this week got asked if i was "available" ....... and not for a disco ..... twice this week once by a woman on the answerphone who had seen the website and on saturday nights gig too ......

i really must have started to exude a totally different vibe altogether?[/QUOTE]

Where can I get these 'vibes' from. I'm not 'available' either but it's good for the ego ;) :D

[soundtracker]

Its the "I'm not a threat vibe" which you give off when in a relationship as compared with the "Oh God please help me I'm desperate" vibe when you're single!