New Year , New Start ?

[ross@rds]

Hi all well its a new year and time for as new start it think. Years got off to a crap start just lost my girl friend and now thinking of giving djing up and making a new start for myself. December has been a bust month im shatterd and its affected my relationship so is it now time to hang the head phones up ?

[rob1963]

Hi all well its a new year and time for as new start it think. Years got off to a crap start just lost my girl friend and now thinking of giving djing up and making a new start for myself. December has been a bust month im shatterd and its affected my relationship so is it now time to hang the head phones up ?

Hi Ross,

Relationships can break up regardless of what line of work you're in, and the Christmas & new year period is the most likely time for this to happen.

You're obviously getting the work, as you say December was a busy month, so if you still enjoy discos my advice would be to carry on.

[ross@rds]

Yeah i enjoy it but its taking its told on me i know im 18 and some people reading this will think hes young what a load of balls but its stressing me out im tired crabbit and thinking is it all worth it ? thinking about going traveling for abit and maby coming back to it or taking a break and having a serious think about if i want to contiue doing it.

When i first set up the company i always said to myself one day when im older and had enuff id pass the company on to my kids to keep it a family biz and set my kid(s) up for future but now i just dont know.

[Excalibur]

Not a dig mate, but real DJ's never hang their headphones up. ;) I'm keener now than I ever was.
Don't do anything hasty, you've had a hectic and stressful time, lean back and relax. Things may look a lot different in a month. ;)

[ross@rds]

Not taken as a dig. Yeah maby your right but just now my heart isnt in it any more to tell you the truth maby in a month or two after a break im realy dont know just now.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Yeah i enjoy it but its taking its told on me i know im 18 and some people reading this will think hes young what a load of balls

Yep, that's exactly what I think.

Stressing you out.....you youngsters don't know the meaning of the word stress.

Sorry Ross, but there's only one of you and I assume you live at home without a mortgage or children?

Get a grip. If you want to go travelling then do it, but how can a few bookings in December and losing a girlfriend be stressing you out?

[ross@rds]

And thats what i love about here :) you can tell what someone will say before they do :)

[Excalibur]

Yep, that's exactly what I think.

Stressing you out.....you youngsters don't know the meaning of the word stress.

Sorry Ross, but there's only one of you and I assume you live at home without a mortgage or children?

Get a grip. If you want to go travelling then do it, but how can a few bookings in December and losing a girlfriend be stressing you out?
And you never felt the aching pangs of a lost true love in your early life, you miserable old git? :confused: :p :D :D



PS. for those below the age of twenty one, it's not actually the end of the world. It just seems like it. ;)

[ross@rds]

PS. for those below the age of twenty one, it's not actually the end of the world. It just seems like it. ;)

Its not just that its the fact i may be losing my day job and im shatterd after a busy december when ive not been feeling at my best and also other things but i dont expect you lot to listen to my problems. All im asking is for opinions on what i should do give up or carry on regardless as beautiful south sung lol.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

And thats what i love about here :) you can tell what someone will say before they do :)

So why put the post up then?

I'm seeing more and more of this attention seeking in the last few weeks and IMO it's pathetic.

What do you want people to post?

You are obviously looking for sympathy and I'm sorry you've split with your girlfriend, but to be honest, there are a lot more people with greater problems than yours and you won't be getting sympathy from me.

[blitz]

Ross if i were in your shoes and in the same situation i would go traveling for a bit (year or so). it's the one thing that i deeply regret not doing and as you get older it becomes harder and harder to do.
When you come back pick up the djin again if you want, you have proved you can do it, hell you can even pick up some bar work etc while traveling, best of both worlds

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Its not just that its the fact i may be losing my day job and im shatterd after a busy december when ive not been feeling at my best and also other things but i dont expect you lot to listen to my problems. All im asking is for opinions on what i should do give up or carry on regardless as beautiful south sung lol.

Give up. If you have a 'day job', you don't need to reply on discos do you?

If you can't hack it at your age and don't enjoy it, you shouldn't be doing it. :)

[ross@rds]

Ross if i were in your shoes and in the same situation i would go traveling for a bit (year or so). it's the one thing that i deeply regret not doing and as you get older it becomes harder and harder to do.
When you come back pick up the djin again if you want, you have proved you can do it, hell you can even pick up some bar work etc while traveling, best of both worlds


Yeah think thats best.

Darren you make me laff i used to look up to you when i cam to this forum .. how things change

[axeman]

go traveling for a bit (year or so). it's the one thing that i deeply regret not doing and as you get older it becomes harder and harder to do.
When you come back pick up the djin again if you want, you have proved you can do it, hell you can even pick up some bar work etc while traveling, best of both worlds



agree 100% - get yourself on holiday with a pal, to tenerife, while their find a job djing or bar work.....live life to the full, and enjoy the good times, coz once your married etc...then you will have more to worry about.

things seem bad now but time and having adventures will help, we all go thru what you are now.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Yeah think thats best.

Darren you make me laff i used to look up to you when i cam to this forum .. how things change

Because I'm a realist and not going to go "Oh poor Rossy, let me give you sympathy"?

I set this forum up to promote best practise and to promote the industry, not to give sympathy to people who are just attention seeking.

You do make me laugh. Stress at your age...lmao.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Darren you make me laff i used to look up to you when i cam to this forum .. how things change

Unlike your spelling which still remains the same. :D

[Digitalsounds]

God,

this guy is 18 he's tried the business its now caused him a little heartbreak i'm sure this game has done it to all of us..... God I know causeed me to have a break up years ago but we got over it.

Ross walk away for while and if you do have a true love for dj'ing you will be back.

The thing is in this current climate there are guys out there who are reliant on there bookings in order to live and its getting harder and harder to get bookings with venues closing and budgets for entertainment being cut or people just not having the money at present to have partys. Do i see these guys on forums complaining that they are going to pack up no they are working hard and trying to continue the best they can.

Chin up..

[Shakermaker Promotions]

Ross, you are young. I don't mean to sound condescending mate but you are 18. You've done well getting the work in and should be enjoying it. Personally speaking, if the girlfriend didn't hang around then she wasn't worth it in the first place. When I first met my missus, I was DJing 5, sometimes 6 nights a week. I hardly saw her but she stuck with me...why?...because she thought / knew it would be worth it and at the end of the day, she loved / loves me. I cut down my DJing a lot so that I could see her more....I'll leave it there as you should get the message there.

I do agree though that if you don't enjoy it, don't do it. It is stupid to do something that you don't like doing. Your busy December and stress (sorry, that made me laugh) may well have put you off but come on.... I have been out working almost every night in December and on occasions, I was ill too but it's my job and a job I love. Stress?....Stress is getting up every morning and going into a job you hate just because you need to be working to pay the bills....that's stress!! Ok, it's hard going out every night DJing and trying to put on a happy face when you are knackered or in the vacinity of countless drunks etc...but it isn't stress.

Have some time off, go travelling if you want but I bet you will be raring to go back behind the decks before long.

[thex-faders]

Without a girlfriend... there are numerous benefits... no more money spent on her!
More time to do more gigs... meet more women without having to worry about it and make more money to go travelling in a couple of years!!
Sorted..
Carry on!!!

View it as a positive and look forward to a new year!

[rob1963]

Without a girlfriend... there are numerous benefits... no more money spent on her!
More time to do more gigs... meet more women without having to worry about it and make more money to go travelling in a couple of years!!
Sorted..
Carry on!!!

View it as a positive and look forward to a new year!

Wise words indeed :thumbsup:

What's that saying...something good always comes out of something bad.

[Jay Drabble]

Hi all well its a new year and time for as new start it think. Years got off to a crap start just lost my girl friend and now thinking of giving djing up and making a new start for myself. December has been a bust month im shatterd and its affected my relationship so is it now time to hang the head phones up ?

Keep on with the Dj ing It's a Beaver Magnet at your'e age
Out with the old one and in with the new ones
I'm looking for a violin emicon but i can't find one
I can remember my 1st love we split and i was gutted' i used to walk 5 miles to were she got off the bus after work just so she could tell me to go away.
and YOU know what ? i still went to meet her for the next 2 weeks.
After that i got my act together and carried on as before' Takes time but youll be okey.:heart2: You will recover

[Mark Wild]

There's a lot of nice blokes on here willing to give advice and it looks like you've been given some, but in reality the decision is yours. Do what YOU feel is right.

I have to agree with Darren though, your only 18 and this is after all a "mobile disco" forum and not a "Agony Uncle" forum.

Maybe post on a different forum for this kind of situation, you may find a more sympathetic ear.

Happy New Year with whatever you choose to do with it. :beer1: :beer1:

[Silver]

I'm looking for a violin emicon but i can't find one

What, something like this one ... http://planetsmilies.net/music-smiley-1302.gif http://planetsmilies.net/grinning-smiley-9513.gif

[rob1963]

What, something like this one ... http://planetsmilies.net/music-smiley-1302.gif http://planetsmilies.net/grinning-smiley-9513.gif

Whoaaa Silver...from what I remember, you always WERE an expert with the smileys!

[Pe7e]

I used to walk 5 miles to were she got off the bus after work just so she could tell me to go away.
and YOU know what ? i still went to meet her for the next 2 weeks.


:Laugh: Priceless, we've all been there while growing up, mine was called Jackie and I only walked 3 miles to be sent away humiliated, she's one ugly mare these days :D I had a lucky escape.

Back on topic, if it was me I'd use the cash I'd just made to take a month off and do a 'Full Moon Party'. for the uninitiated it's an all-night beach party that takes place in Haad Rin on the island of Ko Pha Ngan, Thailand the next one's on the 10th Jan followed by the 10th Feb. Best of all it's cheap and I can't think of a better way to dispense with the cold weather than spend a month on a tropical beach. You could even send the bitch who dumped you a 'wish you were here' card to rub a bit of salt into the wound. It won't do any good, but it would make you feel a whole lot better

[Disco Leisure UK]

I have broken up with lots of serious girlfriends in the past because they could not accept that my DJ'ing work comes first..:D , you have to let the girlfriend go if she can't support you, just lift your head up high and get on with it!!

You talk about "Stress", I met my current girlfriend back in 1993 whilst I was doing a wedding disco (she was a bridesmaid..:D ), in 1994 we married, and now she does our kids disco's and loves it AND we have a 13 year old daughter who now takes dancing lessons because she wants to teach other kids how to dance at the kids disco's, the only "stress" we get now is the mortgage, bills, credit crunch, daughters (they cost a fortune!!)

Dj'ing is in the blood, either you've got it or you haven't, if you're gonna hang the headphones up then obviously you haven't.

[djsteve10]

Ross, You have had a hard month. Let's face it we have all felt like this after a bad gig and I have wanted to give it up or wonder why I do it but then you will get a gig which is an absolute mind blowing gig and you will get the buzz off it and feel great.

Maybe this is the right time to take a break over January & February while the times are quiet and before the wedding season kicks back in again. Whatever your path of direction Ross, All the best to you and I hope you make the right choice for yourself.

[Jay Drabble]

What, something like this one ... http://planetsmilies.net/music-smiley-1302.gif http://planetsmilies.net/grinning-smiley-9513.gif

That's the cookie Nice one jobs a good en:youdaman:

[Penfold42]

I have to agree with Darren here.

Just look at me ol' mate Batman.....I've never heard him harp on about his situation....and I believe there is another on here - Blitz?.
Plenty of others on here that have had worst but that's life......and all it's rich tapestry.

The plus side and believe me there is a plus......plenty more fish in the sea.

Plough all your energy into something you want to do......It will all come out in the wash.

[PropellerHeadCase]

Because I'm a realist and not going to go "Oh poor Rossy, let me give you sympathy"?

I set this forum up to promote best practise and to promote the industry, not to give sympathy to people who are just attention seeking.

You do make me laugh. Stress at your age...lmao.


Perception is reality.

Stress at his age... yeah, it's stressful, and in afew years he'll have a new threshold of 'stressful', it's called gerowing up.

Having done the 'I've lost the only one that loves me' bit I understand how stressful it can seem... it's called empathy :D

[Tony Scott]

It takes a very special female that will put up with all the crap that comes with being with a DJ, we ask a lot from our ladies and if you find one that will take it and encourage you then cherish her and give her all your attention when your not doing the DJ thing.

I screwed up many relationships and my first marriage by not being there when I should and I feel lucky that I've been given a second chance with a wonderful lady who gives me the space I need.

I took a year out, travelled and came back totally re-charged and got straight back into it....I can honestly say that year got my head sorted, what are you waiting for Ross, go for it dude! :)

[DeckstarDeluxe]

Sorry plain and simple attention seeking!

[Tony Scott]

Sorry plain and simple attention seeking!


.........or maybe just looking for a bit of support and some advice on what he should do?

No....tell ya what just kick him when he's feeling really low, that's the spirit!

[rob1963]

Sorry plain and simple attention seeking!

How can you say that when (presumably) you don't even know the guy?

As Tony says, he might be looking for some genuine help & advice.

It's not as though he makes a habit of starting this type of thread...unless I've missed something.

:shrug:

[Corabar Steve]

You talk about "Stress", I met my current girlfriend back in 1993 whilst I was doing a wedding disco (she was a bridesmaid..:D ), in 1994 we married, and now she does our kids disco's and loves it AND we have a 13 year old daughter who now takes dancing lessons because she wants to teach other kids how to dance at the kids disco's, the only "stress" we get now is the mortgage, bills, credit crunch, daughters (they cost a fortune!!).

I believe the technical term for this is wife:sj:

[ppentertainments]

I believe the technical term for this is wife:sj:

Not really. Married in 1994, chances are now divorced, married someone else, divorced again and are now back together as boyfriend / girlfriend. It happens :D :D :D

[ross@rds]

getting out this forum will be part of the new start because there is soo many people on here that are out for themselfs on here. Thanks to all who have helped me over the past couple of years ive been on here.

[Penfold42]

getting out this forum will be part of the new start because there is soo many people on here that are out for themselfs on here. Thanks to all who have helped me over the past couple of years ive been on here.

Well if that's what you choose........nice meeting you. :)

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

because there is soo many people on here that are out for themselfs on here.

Welcome to the real world.

[Corabar Steve]

getting out this forum will be part of the new start because there is soo many people on here that are out for themselfs on here. Thanks to all who have helped me over the past couple of years ive been on here.(spelling & gramar aside)

What, like Darren you mean?

The same Darren that has spent more time & effort on this forum than anyone else involved (past or present). The Same Darren that was part of the LWP. The same Darren that supplies cheap gaffa to anyone who contacts him. The same Darren that has got us replacement equipment at trade prices, with no gain to himself whatsoever?

The same Darren that has done more for this industry than some whinging little 18 year old?

Get over yourself Ross!

Sorry if this seems harsh, actually, no I'm not. I'd sooner see this forum full of people like Darren, Shaun, Gary (Shakermaker), Pete & Pete(Soundtracker & Excalibur), Tony & Tony (Penmare & A1DL) etc etc that call a spade a spade & get on with things than a thousand whinging, whining woe is me types or I know best even though everyone else disagrees with me types (no names nessesary).

If you do go, it's your loss, not the forums.

[Grahame Case]

The same Darren that supplies cheap gaffa to anyone who contacts him.

hold the phone...


i was about to buy some Gaffa tape.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

(spelling & gramar aside)

What, like Darren you mean?

The same Darren that has spent more time & effort on this forum than anyone else involved (past or present). The Same Darren that was part of the LWP. The same Darren that supplies cheap gaffa to anyone who contacts him. The same Darren that has got us replacement equipment at trade prices, with no gain to himself whatsoever?



You forgot to mention that my phone line is always open to anyone for advice and I'm always available for equipment demo's. :D

Oh, and I drove 20 miles on a Sunday morning to take some speaker cables to someone who forgot theirs....
:D :D :D :D :D

Look, seriously, I don't get involved so that people can post things like this. I do it 'cos I love this industry and I want DJs to be treated fairly, get better pay and have a better public image.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

hold the phone...


i was about to buy some Gaffa tape.

Of course it always works out cheaper when you are a MDD supporter. ;)

[Penfold42]

hold the phone...


i was about to buy some Gaffa tape.
It's good stuff....:D


Oh, and I drove 20 miles on a Sunday morning to take some speaker cables to someone who forgot theirs....
:D :D :D :D :D

Go on then spill the beans.......could do with a good chuckle........:sj:

[Corabar Steve]

You forgot to mention that my phone line is always open to anyone for advice and I'm always available for equipment demo's. :D

Oh, and I drove 20 miles on a Sunday morning to take some speaker cables to someone who forgot theirs....
:D :D :D :D :D

Oh yes, silly me :doh:
Look, seriously, I don't get involved so that people can post things like this. I do it 'cos I love this industry and I want DJs to be treated fairly, get better pay and have a better public image.

& absolutely nobody who has ever met or spoken to you could dispute this.

It's funny how it's always the ones that haven't had any direct dealings with you who seem to have the problem with your "attitude"

[Penfold42]

It's funny how it's always the ones that haven't had any direct dealings with you who seem to have the problem with your "attitude"

You could say the same about you as well. :)

[Corabar Steve]

Nah, everyone knows I'm a grumpy bugger with zero tolerance :sj:

[BeerFunk]

Oh deary me.... just caught up with this. I find I need breaks from DJing now and again too, Ross. Sometimes a bad sequence of events really can take it's toll, but the likes of you and I, who don't actually rely on disco bookings to survive or support a family, really have no right to complain too loudly.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Oh yeah, and spending an hour packaging my CDs up and travelling 10 miles to a friend and colleagues house at 10pm to lend them to him after he got his entire collection stolen.

*polishes halo*

:sj:

[Corabar Steve]

Now you're just showing off! :sj: