Evening off and gig offer comes in...

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

What are you going to do?

I have this weekend off and an offer of a gig from a colleague of mine comes in and it's £700+. I have promised to take the family out for the day and rarely get a Saturday off, so turned it down.

Before you think I have so much money I can afford to turn it down, I certainly don't, but family comes first for me.

Would you have taken it?

[Shaun]

Under the same circumstances I'd take the family out as planned.

[Dynamic Entertainment]

I would have spoken to the missus first. She knows that the business is there to make money and is still (really) just getting built up, and she would have probably said to take it, on the promise that i make up for it.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

My wife would never ever question my decision when it comes to things like this. It wouldn't be a case of asking her opinion as I know she wouldn't mind either way.

[Vectis]

Wouldn't get out of bed for £700








:cool:


Actually I'd've run it by the family first and promised them an extra special day out next time with some of the proceeds. If they went for it, I'd take the gig. If they objected, I'd pass.

[flatliners]

i would of gave her a coupl of hundred and told her to go shopping and went and done the gig
when i said shopping i ment food shopping not clothes and shoes

[Dynamic Entertainment]

Its not a case of questioning though is it :) Easy life and all that. I know the answer first, but she takes it alot better if i "ask" than if i tell her :D

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Its not a case of questioning though is it :) Easy life and all that. I know the answer first, but she takes it alot better if i "ask" than if i tell her :D

I don't agree.

My wife let's me run the business and it is my decisions that run it. Why would I want to be pretending to ask? That's not the way we are in our marriage. ;)

[rob1963]

What are you going to do?

I have this weekend off and an offer of a gig from a colleague of mine comes in and it's £700+. I have promised to take the family out for the day and rarely get a Saturday off, so turned it down.

Before you think I have so much money I can afford to turn it down, I certainly don't, but family comes first for me.

Would you have taken it?

This all comes down to A) How important the money is to you, and B) How important you think it is to be reliable & not mess family about or let them down.

If I'd promised to take someone out, be it family or friends, I'd stick to what I'd arranged, partly because I don't mess people about & partly because I don't need the money...as the money from the gig would only bring my retirement forward by a few weeks!

[Shaun]

My wife would never ever question my decision when it comes to things like this. It wouldn't be a case of asking her opinion as I know she wouldn't mind either way.

I've no doubt the missus would understand, but if it was a day out the kids were REALLY looking forward too, I'd be inclined to turn down the gig just so I wouldn't let them down. Like you said, Saturday's off are a rare occurance.

Have a great day out with the family. :) :beer1:

[Dynamic Entertainment]

I don't agree.

My wife let's me run the business and it is my decisions that run it. Why would I want to be pretending to ask? That's not the way we are in our marriage. ;)

But in this case its not just about the business decision, its double sided and affects your family plans too.

Had i not been working and hadnt arranged anything with the missus and lal lad, then i wouldnt even consult ther. but in this case my decision affects her directly, so i would do the curtesy of checking with her.

Granted i dont know your missus (and she sounds great when it comes to your business :) ) but, even if it wasnt family i'd made plans with, i would do ask.

[Mark Wild]

Have a great day out with the family. :) :beer1:


:agree: :D

[Dynamic Entertainment]

:agree: :D

I second that :)

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Granted i dont know your missus (and she sounds great when it comes to your business :) )

She has no interest in it at all.

Both she and I like it that way, though I do talk to her about it, I find her glazing over slightly....;)

[Dynamic Entertainment]

She has no interest in it at all.

Both she and I like it that way, though I do talk to her about it, I find her glazing over slightly....;)

Blooming hell, mine and your missus must be related. Does here eyes unglaze when you tell her youve just spend a couple of hundred quid. If not...ill drive mine down and swap with you :D

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Does here eyes unglaze when you tell her youve just spend a couple of hundred quid.

Nope, cos as I said, the business has nothing to do with her. She knows I'm quite capable of making decisions. ;)

[Dynamic Entertainment]

Right swap it is then. :D

My missus doesnt really get involved unless im spending, and to be honest its worked quite well in the past. As when i was starting off i was a compulsive buyser (ive a nightclub centrepiece in the lock-up, for a project that never happened :o ). Shes let off alot now that ive calmed down mind :)

[DeckstarDeluxe]

I'd of done it!

With £700 you can take them on a far better day out, but then again letting down your kids is properly the worst thing you can do so its a tough choice

[Pe7e]

Before you think I have so much money I can afford to turn it down, I certainly don't, but family comes first for me.

Would you have taken it?

When I was a young guy chasing my pot of gold I would have made my excuses and took the gig, nowadays, with the benefit of hindsight I would have taken the family out. I missed huge chunks of my children's childhood chasing money, these times can never be recreated chance how much money you throw at the problem. My advise to the young guys on the forum is to spend your time on the things that really matter, I knew the price of everything, but the value of nothing, don't make the same mistake.

[Charlie Brown]

I would have taken the money and done the gig. Taken them on a mini city brake or something...:)

[Twinspin]

Tbh ive lost interest in discos and will only work if i have to. I just dont enjoy them anymore or get any Buzz out of it. If the money is there and i need it. I'll do the gig and of course do it to help friends out when they need cover but any other offer i will decline. Within time not sure how long ill find a full time job and then i can do that instead.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Tbh ive lost interest in discos and will only work if i have to.

Leave off John, you change your mind every week.....

You've already said that DJing is your only income and you change your mind about the industry every few weeks.

[andyw]

nothing is more important than family, a good day with the family is priceless imo.
but £700 is a lot of money so in the circumstances mentioned i would consult with my wife and kids to see what was best for us as a family. so for me it would depend on how much i needed the money and/or the business and how important the day out is(school holidays just around the corner, could it be done then) i would hate to disappoint my children but then again i would hate to turn that money away if i needed it so a really tough one for me

[Penfold42]

You do right Daz.:)
Kids change far too quickly – look around and they have grown up.
Quality time – family time – you can’t beat it. Its memories and not money that counts.

Have a good day out.

[JAMdisco]

Tbh ive lost interest in discos and will only work if i have to. I just dont enjoy them anymore or get any Buzz out of it. If the money is there and i need it. I'll do the gig and of course do it to help friends out when they need cover but any other offer i will decline. Within time not sure how long ill find a full time job and then i can do that instead.

That's not the message that came across in last nights telephone discussion John?

What's up, something got you down?

I'd have taken the gig as my wife would completely understand that the money would come in very useful. If, however, I spent it all on disco equipment, she might not be too impressed.

As for my daughter, I'd hate to let her down but would promise to take her out the following day (somewhere better). She's 12 now so I think she'd be ok with that.

Just for the record, my daughter lives with my ex-wife.

[gaza]

You do right Daz.:)
Kids change far too quickly – look around and they have grown up.
Quality time – family time – you can’t beat it. Its memories and not money that counts.

Have a good day out.

Spot on Penmare.


I'd of done it!

With £700 you can take them on a far better day out, but then again letting down your kids is properly the worst thing you can do so its a tough choice

And what if another well payed gig came in on the re planed date.

When kids grow up they will remember the great times they had, but the money will have been long gone.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

When kids grow up they will remember the great times they had, but the money will have been long gone.

Great quote!

[Starlight]

Great quote!

Solitaire, I think family come 1st for sure :D If someone makes plans on taking the family out and moments after planning a trip out, the phone rings, asking for a disco on that same day, then I'd have to decline the disco. Have you decided what you intend to do?

Best wishes,

Neil.

[Shakermaker Promotions]

Here's my take on it.
I'm married (5 years next week) and my wife is also trying to build her business up, she's doing well. We don't have kids as yet but let's just say we did and I had promised them a special day out... Well, in this current economic climate I think I would do my best to explain to them that I am going to have to put their special day on hold and I would take the job on and earn the money. I don't get many £700+ jobs...I don't get that many £500 ones either so I would take it and then also treat them and tell them that they will still get their special day.

Mine and my wife's relationship is very cool and she knows that I need to work if the money is there. She never sticks her nose in but she does have an interest and wants me to do well so she would fully understand. Obviously letting the kids down wouldn't be my ideal situation and I am not in the position (yet) to say that family comes first so that may well change in the future. The kids will have plenty of chances to go out and be treated and if a decent job came my way then I'd take it.

[BeerFunk]

I don't have a family, but if I did, I doubt I'd take the gig on either.

[Shaun]

Here's my take on it.
I'm married (5 years next week) and my wife is also trying to build her business up, she's doing well. We don't have kids as yet but let's just say we did and I had promised them a special day out... Well, in this current economic climate I think I would do my best to explain to them that I am going to have to put their special day on hold and I would take the job on and earn the money. I don't get many £700+ jobs...I don't get that many £500 ones either so I would take it and then also treat them and tell them that they will still get their special day.

Mine and my wife's relationship is very cool and she knows that I need to work if the money is there. She never sticks her nose in but she does have an interest and wants me to do well so she would fully understand. Obviously letting the kids down wouldn't be my ideal situation and I am not in the position (yet) to say that family comes first so that may well change in the future. The kids will have plenty of chances to go out and be treated and if a decent job came my way then I'd take it.

Seems fair enough. :)

My only concern (if in the same situation) would be that a Saturday off is extremely rare. How many kids would understand if the re-scheduling means it might be a few months till their special day out happens.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

My kids would just ask for the cash equivalent.....

[DeckstarDeluxe]

might seem daft darren but you could get a decent dj to do the booking and take a cut surely? Or is that what you are doing?

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

might seem daft darren but you could get a decent dj to do the booking and take a cut surely? Or is that what you are doing?

No, it was a colleague of mine who offered it to me as he knew I wasn't working. He had other people to contact after me as well.

[Shaun]

My kids would just ask for the cash equivalent.....

:lol:

[Shakermaker Promotions]

Shaun, I understand what you are saying but if we took it that this scenario popped up now, it would be easy enough to tell the kids that they could do something midweek. I also think they'd be fully aware what Dad does on a friday and saturday night anyway and if something came in that he could take it on. It is hard to comment on to be honest as I'm not in the same position with kids so my mind may change.

[rob1963]

Shaun, I understand what you are saying but if we took it that this scenario popped up now, it would be easy enough to tell the kids that they could do something midweek.

Just what I was thinking.

Other than Fridays & Saturdays, a professional DJ can be free on most nights as well as the daytimes, and the school holidays are on the way later this month, so if you took the gig don't see why they'd have to wait several months for that special day out.

:shrug:

[Shaun]

Just what I was thinking.

Other than Fridays & Saturdays, a professional DJ can be free on most nights as well as the daytimes,
:shrug:

It depends what kind of day out was planned. Some are more suitable for a daytime weekend than a midweek evening. As we don't really know what the day out was, then it's hard to say really


Just what I was thinking.

and the school holidays are on the way later this month, so if you took the gig don't see why they'd have to wait several months for that special day out.

:shrug:
That's a fair comment. When I posted I hadn't considered that the School holidays were coming up.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Just what I was thinking.

Other than Fridays & Saturdays, a professional DJ can be free on most nights as well as the daytimes, and the school holidays are on the way later this month, so if you took the gig don't see why they'd have to wait several months for that special day out.

:shrug:

Two people who haven't got kids answering....lol.

Kids are at school during the week and go to clubs, do sporting activities and other things with parents having responsibilities with work and other things. Kids also can't stay out too late.

My wife still works during the week regardless of whether the kids are on holiday and we still have a household to run, and personally I spend a lot of time running a footy team and taking my kids to different places.

It is not that easy just to down tools.

Yes, my life is a bit of a nightmare logistical, and probably worse than a lot of others, but come on guys, just 'cos there only you or you and partner, didn't you think about all the things that I've just listed?

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

That's a fair comment.

Not if you both work it isn't.

[Shakermaker Promotions]

Yes, I looked at your post Darren and I commented on it. You're correct, I don't have kids and I explained that too. Lucky you for getting £700+ gigs offered to you... I would jump at the chance given an offer like that because as I said, this current climate is dodgy to say the least...saying that, I have had 3 bookings today (sorry, off topic)..

Also, if you aren't used to earning that kind of money, why not take it up, do the gig and then take a day off the following weekend if possible?

[ppentertainments]

Unless I had a full day out planned I would (and have today - Cheers Axeman :beer1: ) take a booking. At present I am 'ticking over' at best and have a couple of quiet months after July. Had a full family day been planned I would have refused.

[Excalibur]

I would have no say in the matter. I'd put the facts to High Command, and I would receive an edict on which gig I did. :o :o :o :o

[discodean]

i would turn it down, you need family time, i dont see as much of my kids as i would like. i work away from home a lot just now as i have to go where the contracts are, last trip away i missed out on my son taking his first steps and daughters school sports.

enjoy your day off, watch out for the heatwave or is it wellies.

[visualdjmax]

Very difficult! I love working and then on the other hand family comes first!!! Especially as we have another due on the the busiest night in December I probably wouldn't have done it as I need the brownie points.

[DJMaxG]

Would you have taken it?

Definately. I would obviously have to hire in a decent sized sound system first, as I can only go up to 500w, and it doesn't sound great.

I don't have children at the moment, so I'm Free.

Family comes first in an Emergency situation, I guess.

But then again, every saturday night would get tedious after a while, so I can understand your point fully.

[Shaun]

Very difficult! I love working and then on the other hand family comes first!!! Especially as we have another due on the the busiest night in December
Congratulations, Max. :beer1: :beer1:

[andyw]

Definately. I would obviously have to hire in a decent sized sound system first, as I can only go up to 500w, and it doesn't sound great.

I don't have children at the moment, so I'm Free.

Family comes first in an Emergency situation, I guess.

But then again, every saturday night would get tedious after a while, so I can understand your point fully.


max i think you need to understand the scenario, daz is full time that means it is his income we are talking about ,not like most of us where the dj'ing tops up earnings, so a saturday off for daz is a rare thing not neccesary a good thing, easy for us to say take the family out they are more important and they are without doubt the most important and precious thing in any relationship( missed opportunities with children cannot be got back, you only get one chance ), but on the other it's daz's responsibilty to bring in the money to house/feed the family and only he can weigh that up. i know that daz would of weighed all the pro's and cons and not taking the decision lightly before turning the gig down or taking it on. at the end of the day it's all about his responsibilities to his family and whether the £700 is more important and useful to them then the day spent having a good time with wife and kids which is priceless (and he has already promised them). it is a very tough choice, in todays circumstance (for myself) i would take out the family a few years ago i would of had to take the money. but not an easy decision to make even though i am not i that position

visualdjmax congatulations from me as well

[visualdjmax]

Congratulations, Max. :beer1: :beer1:

Cheers MAte

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

So, anyway....I took the night off and we went out to the New Forest and Beaulieu motor museum, where I spotted Peter (Excalibur) and realised what he used to do for a living. :sj:

The second one is for anyone who has ever bought anything from me. ;)

[wensleydale]

So, anyway....I took the night off and we went out to the New Forest and Beaulieu motor museum, where I spotted Peter (Excalibur) and realised what he used to do for a living. :sj:

The second one is for anyone who has ever bought anything from me. ;)

can you get all the gear in the back of that?
i imagine it needs to be balanced.

[Excalibur]

So, anyway....I took the night off and we went out to the New Forest and Beaulieu motor museum, where I spotted Peter (Excalibur) and realised what he used to do for a living. :sj:
As I've said before, it never hurts to have an extra string to your bow. ;) :D




The second one is for anyone who has ever bought anything from me. ;)

Erm, you've mislaid your sheepskin jacket, Del. ;) ;) ;)



Hope you had a great time mate.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Hope you had a great time mate.

We did, thanks.

When I saw that man with the red flag, I did actually think of you straight away and laughed out loud....then I got a few strange looks from people nearby. :o :D

[BeerFunk]

:lol:

It is uncanny....

[andyw]

first picture, is that a produb inspector:)

[DazzyD]

Family first, in my opinion, so I wouldn't have taken the gig on personally.


might seem daft darren but you could get a decent dj to do the booking and take a cut surely? Or is that what you are doing?

I wouldn't be averse to subbing out work, though, and then I could have the best of both worlds. Family time and an income. Great! :)


Very difficult! I love working and then on the other hand family comes first!!! Especially as we have another due on the the busiest night in December I probably wouldn't have done it as I need the brownie points.

Congrats! We've just had our fourth in March so it's hectic in our house. Our son was due on 24st December 2005 but came on 4th December and our daughter was due on 31st December 2006 (no work taken on that season) but she came five weeks early on 28th November (so I could've worked after all! :bang: ).

[Jonathan Ford]

Tough decision, but I would've taken the booking in a heart beat.

Yes, like many others, I do the disco alongside other things, but not as a "top up" as it were. I'm hugely dependent on the income from the disco to support us through my medical education. Having said that, we spend virtually no time together as a family - my wife works as a nursing sister, doing irregular shifts, and I'm putting in around 100 hours most weeks, so the time would have been really difficult to give up.

Another factor for me would've been the price. In my own business, and from the client side of things (even when I was a General Manager of a 4* hotel), the idea of paying, or earning, £700 for a disco is completely alien to me.

[visualdjmax]

Another factor for me would've been the price. In my own business, and from the client side of things (even when I was a General Manager of a 4* hotel), the idea of paying, or earning, £700 for a disco is completely alien to me.

Really ?

[visualdjmax]

Family first, in my opinion, so I wouldn't have taken the gig on personally.



I wouldn't be averse to subbing out work, though, and then I could have the best of both worlds. Family time and an income. Great! :)



Congrats! We've just had our fourth in March so it's hectic in our house. Our son was due on 24st December 2005 but came on 4th December and our daughter was due on 31st December 2006 (no work taken on that season) but she came five weeks early on 28th November (so I could've worked after all! :bang: ).

WOW we are stopping at 2! It's official

[Excalibur]

Another factor for me would've been the price. In my own business, and from the client side of things (even when I was a General Manager of a 4* hotel), the idea of paying, or earning, £700 for a disco is completely alien to me.

Typing on here's getting worse. I think you meant: the idea of paying, or earning, £70 for a disco is completely alien to me. You'd never get that round here. ;)

[visualdjmax]

So, anyway....I took the night off and we went out to the New Forest and Beaulieu motor museum, where I spotted Peter (Excalibur) and realised what he used to do for a living. :sj:

The second one is for anyone who has ever bought anything from me. ;)

Darren mate I am finding it hard to spot the difference. Has one got a hat on?