Bride in a Wheelchair

[Babybob]

I've got a wedding soon and the bride will be in a wheelchair, anyone had anything similar and maybe recommend some suitable tracks to play, I don't mind if it descends into a bit of light hearted banter.

Cheers.:beer1:

[wensleydale]

not sure that's such a wise idea.

i would just do as you would normally do unless they have asked for otherwise.

[soundtracker]

I've got a wedding soon and the bride will be in a wheelchair, anyone had anything similar and maybe recommend some suitable tracks to play, I don't mind if it descends into a bit of light hearted banter.

Cheers.:beer1:

I've recently done a wedding disco for a severely handicapped Bride who is confined to a wheelchair for life. The event was totally normal in every way, including her joining in on the floor with the dancers.
I DO mind if it descends into light-hearted banter, as IMHO the days of treating the handicapped as anything other than normal are well behind us. Any mis-guided attempts at humour will be dealt with as per forum rules.

[JTRS]

I have a friend who is disabled and her biggest hate is when she gets treated differently because of her disability. I've always considered that whenever I come into contact with disabled people, so I'd be tempted to treat it like any other wedding and play the music they request.

Obviously they will tell you the first dance and how they would like it to work.

JTRS

[DJ Jules]

I've got a wedding soon and the bride will be in a wheelchair, anyone had anything similar and maybe recommend some suitable tracks to play, I don't mind if it descends into a bit of light hearted banter.

My friends daughter is in a wheelchair, as is a kid in my sons class and I've done a number of parties with one or the other there - generally I've done exactly the same games as I would have if they weren't there and they've joined in with all of them without exception (even Limbo!)

The point is, unless they've specifically requested it, I wouldn't do anything different. I might be wrong in thinking that way, but I'm on good terms with both of the kids involved and neither of them has ever asked me not to play a specific game, or do a particular dance because it's tricky for them.

Julian

[BeerFunk]

I agree with everyone so far, absolutely, make no changes to your normal service.

On the other hand, obviously there are some physical limitations, in terms of dancing - so it would be just as disastrous not to consider these things too.

[Dynamic Entertainment]

She is a person...treat her as such! :)

Her music and taste isnt going to be any different due to her wheelchair.

[Vectis]

I've got a wedding soon and the bride will be in a wheelchair, anyone had anything similar

I did a scooter wedding last summer and the bride arrived in a sidecar.

Is that similar?

If so, I just played regular tunes all night and she loved it.

:bang:

[DJmissbehaving]

I've got a wedding soon and the bride will be in a wheelchair, anyone had anything similar and maybe recommend some suitable tracks to play, I don't mind if it descends into a bit of light hearted banter.

Cheers.:beer1:

Treat her the way you would treat anyone else.....disabled people don appreciate to being treated differently and this is a prime example. Just treat it like a normal evening as the bride is still as normal as anyone else....

[sted]

why would you play different music just because the bride is in a wheelchair?

and how proffessionl is it to suggest panter at this?

if you have such a problem with this why take the booking at it comes across that you think this is just one big joke.

[Penfold42]

She is a person...treat her as such!

Well said that man....and do it right.

[DazzyD]

I can't agree more with the posts already made.

I was a Regional Equality Officer for 7 years in the 90s and that including representing disabled people. I found that they just want to be treated in the same way as everyone else. For instance, if you see someone in wheelchair struggling with a door it's not a good idea to just go and open it for them - they can take offence at that. By all means, ask if they would like you to help but don't just assume they want your help. Also, they don't like being called "less-abled" or other terms like that.

Treat the gig like any other wedding and you won't go far wrong!

[Disco Tech Liverpool]

I've got a wedding soon and the bride will be in a wheelchair, anyone had anything similar and maybe recommend some suitable tracks to play, I don't mind if it descends into a bit of light hearted banter.

Cheers.:beer1:

Why would you do anything different and why would you want to have light hearted banter ? I find this post a bit offensive to be honest.

[Babybob]

As usual the post has been misconstrued, the reason I added the comment about the light hearted banter is because there are some regular posters here who shall remain nameless that may have added a song title that perhaps relates to Andy Pipkin or Ironside, I just wanted to state that I personally would not have found it offensive.

I am registered disabled myself so for all the comments that find this post offensive I suggest you re-read the topic starter, I was looking for advice on how to handle the occasion. I am not going to be patronising to the lady but also i'm not going to ignore the fact that she is disabled.

:bang: :bang: :bang: :mad: :Censored:

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

So, everyone read the topic incorrectly then?

How strange.

[soundtracker]

So, everyone read the topic incorrectly then?

How strange.

I've just re-read it, and tbh can't really see how it was supposed to mean anything different to my first reaction.

[Babybob]

No, just one or two, including yourself now.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

No, just one or two, including yourself now.

I suggest you read the thread and take your foot out of your mouth.

There are plenty of people on here that disagree with what you are saying and if you are registered disabled then you should know better.

Take people's advice and read the thread again, taking on board their advice.

[Dynamic Entertainment]

After re-reading it, im also sticking to my original statement.

Your post reads as though you should play something different because shes in a wheelchair, and will be making light-hearted jokes of the fact.

[Babybob]

I have read the thread and people like Julian, Beerfunk and Dazzy D all offered decent ADVICE and not attack what they THINK may be the case.

I wanted to know how to approach the evening and merely asked if anyone else has been in the same position, I then thought that some forum members may post something along the lines of "Don't play :censored:" that is why I posted the light hearted banter bit.

TBH most of the replies from the usual suspects were only what I was expecting, face not fitting and all that.

Have you all noticed that there is only a hard core minority left on this site and some characters have been set asunder, don't rock the boat people or you'll pay.


Byeeeeee.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

I have read the thread and people like Julian, Beerfunk and Dazzy D all offered decent ADVICE and not attack what they THINK may be the case.

I wanted to know how to approach the evening and merely asked if anyone else has been in the same position, I then thought that some forum members may post something along the lines of "Don't play the Ironside theme tune" that is why I posted the light hearted banter bit.

TBH most of the replies from the usual suspects were only what I was expecting, face not fitting and all that.

Have you all noticed that there is only a hard core minority left on this site and some characters have been set asunder, don't rock the boat people or you'll pay.


Byeeeeee.

Don't talk rot.

We have 200 members who come on here every day.

I am closing this thread as I don't want it to turn into a slanging match.

You have been warned before with some of your posts and threads and have answered that it was your 'sense of humour'. What complete nonsense.