What a venue manager said to the bride and groom

[soundmaster mobile disco]

I got this email from a couple,i am doing there wedding shortly,this is what the venue manager has told them to tell me.

Hi Gary,



We went to Broomhall Castle on Saturday to finalise our details with them. They have advised that the room should be available to set up from 6.30pm. They also advised, that although the wedding reception is due to start at 7.30 that no one ever turns up on time They have advised that they expect the 1st dance to be 8pm.


I cant believe that the venue manager says that no one will turn up on time,how does he know?

It is very true but i would never say that no one ever turns up on time to a bride and groom before the wedding.

[spin mobile disco]

I supose it depends on does he mean the compnaies , dj , chocolate fountain etc or the guests turning up late. If he means guests then I would agree and I would assume the bride and groom would as well. If he means the suppliers then he is obviously not used to good suppliers.
Show up on tiem and show him how its meant to be done. Then tut a lot and tap your watch while they turn around the roon late.

[Shaun]

If he means the suppliers then he is obviously not used to good suppliers.


He can't mean the suppliers. I always show up on time when I play there. :p

[Corabar Entertainment]

I read that and assumed he meant the guests... didn't even occur to me that he was talking about suppliers until I read the other posts

[NKR]

I read that and assumed he meant the guests... didn't even occur to me that he was talking about suppliers until I read the other posts

I assumed the same. I am a little more tactful when setting first dance times with clients. I say something along the lines of if you have 7:30 on the invite the bulk of people will make it for around 8:00 after taking longer on hair and not leaving enough to get to the venue, etc (making light hearted of it). I then always suggest first dance about fifteen minutes before buffet at say 8:45 to ensure no-one misses it and to give guests sufficient time to mingle and catch up with mates they may not have seen for a while.

Guests are never on time, so I would suggest that was his meaning.

[rob1963]

I assumed the same. I am a little more tactful when setting first dance times with clients. I say something along the lines of if you have 7:30 on the invite the bulk of people will make it for around 8:00 after taking longer on hair and not leaving enough to get to the venue, etc (making light hearted of it). I then always suggest first dance about fifteen minutes before buffet at say 8:45 to ensure no-one misses it and to give guests sufficient time to mingle and catch up with mates they may not have seen for a while.

Guests are never on time, so I would suggest that was his meaning.

I see no point in setting any timings in advance for things like the first dance at weddings, because they virtually always run late...so any times which HAVE been set in advance usually go out the window on the night anyway, making it a pointless exercise.

:shrug:

[Dynamic Entertainment]

I assumed the same. I am a little more tactful when setting first dance times with clients. I say something along the lines of if you have 7:30 on the invite the bulk of people will make it for around 8:00 after taking longer on hair and not leaving enough to get to the venue, etc (making light hearted of it). I then always suggest first dance about fifteen minutes before buffet at say 8:45 to ensure no-one misses it and to give guests sufficient time to mingle and catch up with mates they may not have seen for a while.

Guests are never on time, so I would suggest that was his meaning.

Before the buffet. :eek:

I usuall suggest after the buffet (as long as the buffet is scheduled early enough) as a full dancefloor for dancing with the bride and groom is a good kick start.

[soundmaster mobile disco]

Just got back home from that gig,the manager was talking about the guests not arriving untill later.

The manager was not a nice person,i got the impression from the moment i introduced myself and showed my pat test certificate and pli that he did not like me.as normal i put some flyers\business cards out on the tables,i then went to change into my wedding outfit,when i returned to the function room the photographer said to me,the manager has removed your flyers\business cards from every table.

Why did he wait untill i was away from the room to do this?

Has anyone else came across this situation before?

[Dynamic Entertainment]

Just got back home from that gig,the manager was talking about the guests not arriving untill later.

The manager was not a nice person,i got the impression from the moment i introduced myself and showed my pat test certificate and pli that he did not like me.as normal i put some flyersbusiness cards out on the tables,i then went to change into my wedding outfit,when i returned to the function room the photographer said to me,the manager has removed your flyersbusiness cards from every table.

Why did he wait untill i was away from the room to do this?

Has anyone else came across this situation before?

Did you have the Ok to put flyers out on the tables? By Ok, i mean from your cleints. If you did, then he had no right removing them IMO, if you didnt....

[Danno13]

Has anyone else came across this situation before?

No, because I would consider it pretty rude to be putting my flyers on my clients guest's tables in the first place!

[DJ Jules]

No, because I would consider it pretty rude to be putting my flyers on my clients guest's tables in the first place!

Yeah, I've got to admit, I wouldn't do this at a wedding. I do however put out request slips (and Ok this with the B&G in advance and show them what they are) but these are just single sided white paper slips which just happen to have my details on as well!

Julian

[NKR]

No, because I would consider it pretty rude to be putting my flyers on my clients guest's tables in the first place!

Agreed. Its a wedding and in most cases the bride will have spent a lot of time and effort on table design. I wouldn't dream of putting out cards or flyers.

[DJMaxG]

The person who made that statement or assumption, obviously has experience of that place, so know what to expect.

It's just like saying if you go out in the rain, you'll get wet.

[CRAZY K]

Agreed. Its a wedding and in most cases the bride will have spent a lot of time and effort on table design. I wouldn't dream of putting out cards or flyers.

That sounds inappropriate at a Wedding.

Just announce you have business cards in the DJ area if anyone is interested.:D :D :D

If you really impress people they will come up and talk or get your number from the Bride and Groom who obviously are in some form of contact with the guests.

It happens.

CRAZY K

[rob1963]

That sounds inappropriate at a Wedding.

Just announce you have business cards in the DJ area if anyone is interested.:D :D :D

If you really impress people they will come up and talk or get your number from the Bride and Groom who obviously are in some form of contact with the guests.

It happens.

CRAZY K

Agreed.

I don't even think it makes much difference whether or not you announce that you have business cards available.

If someone likes you & needs a disco in the near future, they'll come up to ask for a card anyway.

[NKR]

That sounds inappropriate at a Wedding.

Just announce you have business cards in the DJ area if anyone is interested.:D :D :D

If you really impress people they will come up and talk or get your number from the Bride and Groom who obviously are in some form of contact with the guests.

It happens.

CRAZY K

What are you on about quoting me and then saying its inappropriate. I was agreeing that its not appropriate to put cards or flyers out at a wedding. Its also not appropriate to have some advertising hoarding on the go.