Civil Partnership differences?

[ukpartydj]

I've never done a Civil Partnership before and was wondering if there any fundamental differences between one and a wedding that might be useful to know?

[mattydj50]

Don't call them bride & groom!

Seriously, I refer to the happy couple as just that - "the happy couple" or siumply by name.

Even though in their eyes they may think they are "married" in the eyes of the law, they are not and it may be that there is someone there who has an issue wuth same sex "weddings" and makes a thing about it.

Apart from that, its just the same as a wedding, though in my experience (I've done 8 altogether), only one couple had a first dance, the others wanted it keeping fairly low key and informal.

[ukpartydj]

Don't call them bride & groom!

Seriously, I refer to the happy couple as just that - "the happy couple" or siumply by name.

Even though in their eyes they may think they are "married" in the eyes of the law, they are not and it may be that there is someone there who has an issue wuth same sex "weddings" and makes a thing about it.

Apart from that, its just the same as a wedding, though in my experience (I've done 8 altogether), only one couple had a first dance, the others wanted it keeping fairly low key and informal.

Cheers, worth knowing about the first dance thing as I wasn't sure if I was to ask them about it and all the other standard wedding dances if it's just not really done.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

It really depends on the couple.

I have found civil partnerships to be as diverse as weddings. I have done around 10-12 and found that most had a small percentage of gay people there.

Treat as you would a wedding. Make sure you understand the couple and exactly what their expectations are and musical likes and dislikes.

[yourdj]

It really depends on the couple.

I have found civil partnerships to be as diverse as weddings. I have done around 10-12 and found that most had a small percentage of gay people there.

Treat as you would a wedding. Make sure you understand the couple and exactly what their expectations are and musical likes and dislikes.

I agree with that. They often don't want to have a gay wedding and i always actually forget it is a same sex marriage after the ceremony.

They are in love and want to get married just like everyone else so (in all of the ones I have done) its not much different than a normal wedding, although some gay classics can go down very well depending on the couple as often one is an extrovert and there are always a few gay guests.

Get the address correct - usually first names but I have had a Dr and Mrs etc. Here is one from Last weekend.
Guess who the extrovert was. Andrew really did not want to be up there. He did not even want to do a first dance. ;)

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[BeerFunk]

As others have said, every one is different. I've had one where they didn't want a first dance at all, or any of the ceremony, in fact. The last one I did, they had 'Caro Emerald - Tangled Up' as their first dance and they really put on a show!

So yes, speak to them.. regardless of what they want, they'll appreciate your effort to get the finer details ironed out in advance.

[ukpartydj]

Cheers, met up with them and they seem to just want a party - no speeches, no first dance... they just want it to look simple and stylish and for me to get people dancing!
Bit of a shock but I'm not complaining :D

[stormproductions]

they seem to just want a party - no speeches, no first dance... they just want it to look simple and stylish and for me to get people dancing

Worth pointing out that many straight couples want this too - in fact the traditional first dance can be the most terrifying part of the whole procedure for some people and it's worth finding out if it's what they really want to do.

[djdave01]

ive only done two civil partnerships, one for two women, one for two men.

Both had first dances for which I invited them up by name.

At the men's event there was a large majority of gay couples. It was a great night.

[yourdj]

A toastmaster called the groom in the attached pic a "Tart" in front of everyone. You could try that LOL.
He was lucky they had a sense of humour as that could have gone terribly wrong.

He then talked about the fertility rights of the cake and said "its probably no use to you though" LOL

[Jim - Scotland's Party DJ]

A toastmaster called the groom in the attached pic a "Tart" in front of everyone. You could try that LOL.
He was lucky they had a sense of humour as that could have gone terribly wrong.

He then talked about the fertility rights of the cake and said "its probably no use to you though" LOL



I would hope he had spoke to them in advance and was sure they'd be OK with that.

Can't disagree with anything others have said.

I've got one coming up in August that I'm really looking forward to. They've been an absolute delight to deal with and I'm determined to give them an absolute cracker of a day.

[DJ Davy]

I can honestly say that all of the civil partnerships I have done have been brilliant. Every one of them have not been wanting any stuffy formalities, and just wanted a big party. I will say that the guys have been more up for it than the girls though.