would you?

[funkymike]

well in all my years of dj ing I have never had this, and frankly I dont know if I want to:-

within a week of one another 2 people called 'Dave' have died (not related any way) one who did discos and one who I done a karaoke for last summer for his birthday. Both family parties want me to do again a disco and a karaoke for the wake/evening. Both on a friday this week and next.

Perhaps its me, I dont want to do either, disco! emotions running high, fuelled by drink. Karaoke, again emotion running high, people singing sad songs or songs that might upset other people because of the words to a song.

what do I do chaps and what would you do????:confused:

mike

[BeerFunk]

Sorry to hear of that, it's never nice to lose someone, even if you didn't know them that well.

I've never heard of a disco/karaoke for a wake.. is it common place? I wouldn't want to do it either :(

[funkymike]

Thankyou Mossy, may I say very nicely put.

Because of how you wrote your reply I will have a think about it

cheers


Mike

[Rattz]

this is a touchy subject, but i've done a couple of funerals and have to say they were good nights (entertainment wise) but over here its different, people celebrate the life of the deceased at the wake, they do their mourning at the funeral itself and then party the night away in rememberance of the person who's died.

I don't know if all of Northern Ireland is like this but around the ards pennisula this seems to be the norm. I actually think it is a good thing.

[ross@rds]

I could see it if he was a DJ he would have wanted a disco but bit of a weird one that.

[Shaun]

I love the idea of 'Celebrating the Life' rather than mourning the death. Definitely the way I'd want to 'go'.

[Corabar Entertainment]

My family are Irish, and as Rattz has said, it's fairly common place to celebrate after the funeral. In fact, often the day takes a very similar format to a wedding, with the ceremony followed by everyone going to a venue (eg hotel), then having a sit-down meal and speeches then those who stay on for the evening (and most do) having a good drink, chat, and a bit of a party - ie, celebrating the life of the person as has already been said, so to me this isn't such an unusual request.

[ross@rds]

Most people celebrate by getting that drunk they cant stand never understood that someone has just died and your going on a bennder lol.

[LILLYSTONE]

I did a disco once for somebody who was termally ill and she wanted a party but she wanted to be there herself so it was instead of a wake. I did the disco (very sad at the end).
She never booked again...

[colinm345]

I love the idea of 'Celebrating the Life' rather than mourning the death. Definitely the way I'd want to 'go'.

Quite right when my Mother died a few years back I asked the Vicar (who had never done a funeral before) to keep mentioning that it was celebrating my mothers life:)

[electricnite]

i did a disco at a funeral as the deceased was a musician and said before when he died he wanted all his songs and his favourite tunes played and the playlist was about 3 hours long his tunes were to be played first so everybody listened (everyone was motionless) it was hard work !!!!

[Thames Valley Discos]

Mike, just leave your wig, funny glasses and red nose at home though.

[Vectis]

So what about the blow-up guitars, bananas, saxophones... ? Take 'em or leave 'em? :p

I've done a few 'life celebrations' over the years - never really caught the Irish connection before but come to think of it most of the families do tend to be Irish sounding or have Irish names...

I've also had a couple of charity fundraisers where they wheel up a few disabled kids to get the sympathy factor working. Not sure I fully approve but I can see the logic.