Brides not happy...

[Ricesnaps]

As you know a couple of us here have been infiltrating some of the wedding forums to get some feedback.

have a look at this post and see what you think - no names obviously:


Emailed our DJ yesterday saying that we wanted something different for our first dance and that we were considering something along the lines of Andy Williams - You're just too good to be true so that we get started with a bang after only 30 seconds of shuffling... Asked if he had any ideas about similar alternatives that he may have seen in the past. Here's the reply:

Andy Williams 'Your just Too Good To Be True' is better used as a finishing song (last dance), but the choice is yours to make.

In my (possibly wrong) opinion the first dance should be sweet and romantic, not a singalong song. There are thousands upon thousands of songs you could choose from.

So you don't have to shuffle on your own I will invite your family and friends to join you after a minute or so. We call this a staggered first dance, as the bridal party are invited up first, followed by the remainder a minute later. If your having a photographer this will also give you good variation in the pictures, and it helps break the ice on the dancefloor.

Let me know if you change your mind about your first dance choice.

Best wishes.


What was the point in that? Not helpful at all...

[Shaun]

Telling a bride that her first choice is wrong and she should pick an alternative is never going to be a good move.

It her day and she should have exactly what she wants.

[Spirits High]

Give them what they want.

Did a wedding on sat just gone and they had Nina simone "My baby just cares" and they danced a strictly come dancing type ballroom dance , very impressive.

[CRAZY K]

As you know a couple of us here have been infiltrating some of the wedding forums to get some feedback.

have a look at this post and see what you think - no names obviously:

Lets Call the whole thing off--Satchmo and Ella ---thats my favourite:D

Got that to play a few years ago.

You need a sense of humour though.:D

First Dance for my next Wedding has been rehearsed by the B and G apparently--must keep it a secret :D

OF COURSE YOUR ON A HIDING TO NOTHING IF YOU SUGGEST SOMETHING AND IT BOMBS OUT:eek:

CRAZY K

[Ricesnaps]

There's more....

I suggested maybe the bride had a meeting with there DJ to plan this more:


Face to face???

He doesn't want to see us til the day. He hasn't taken a deposit either. I asked about meeting him and playlist requests etc and he told me he didn't want me to give him any requests as he likes to judge the crowd.

Sound like this guy REALLY knows how to handle a wedding booking doesn't it!

So I asked (if it wasn't too rude) how much he was charging and suggested maybe a meeting would be a good idea and maybe be a bit firmer:


£250. Higher than lots of others but he has a flashy website so he must be great.

I live over 200 miles from where the wedding is taking place and he has never been available during my visits. He said it wasn't something we needed to worry about as he's played at our venue tons of times before. THAT's reassuring, he must be fab then...



I'm not overly worried, my friend is a DJ so if I do start to have serious doubts I'll drag him in!

makes interesting reading!

[rob1963]

What a nightmare!

Whilst I DO agree that it's the DJ's job to give his professional opinion about what he thinks will & won't work, this guy has taken it WAY too far.

He seems to think it's perfectly ok to do what HE thinks is best, with no regard for the clients who are paying him.

For example, he's trying to get them to change their first dance, and he's TOLD them that he will invite the family to join in with the first dance after the first minute.

From what you've said, he's VERY unprofessional...by refusing to meet them in advance & not even taking a deposit.

Finally, it's a big mistake to assume that he must be good just because he has a flashy website.

After all, I also have a very professional website, but I'm complete :Rob James: !!!

:D

[sleah]

HANG ON YOU LOT!

I don't see anywhere in the quotes where the DJ suggests changing the first dance. The OP reads that the bride has an idea and is ASKING the DJ for alternatives, to which his reply is rather bland, he could have mentioned tracks that are popular first dances, but he doesn't tell them to change.
Yes he has told them how a first dance usually works, but hasn't implied that he won't do it another way. The Bride simply needs to reply and say "Thanks for your suggestions, but I'd like to do it such a way"

That said, the other quotes don't make for good reading, I always suggested I meet with Brides before the gig.
Sounds like he's treating like any other party, rather than adding the 'extra touch' that is usually needed for a Wedding.

I feel there's potential problems from BOTH sides here.
The Bride shouldn't have just dismissed his 'generic' reply and should have given him a better idea of what she want's.
After all, we all fall back on our 'standard formats' unless told different, don't we???

[spin mobile disco]

Got asked for band of gold by freda payne for a first dance at a wedding. Ever heard the words lol not exactly a wedding song. Played it though it was what they wanted.

[Tony Scott]

Marquee wedding 3 weeks ago, I was asked for Just can't get enough - Depeche Mode as a first dance, bride & groom on the floor giving it some followed by 100 guests.

They stayed there all night, no less than 75 on the floor at any one time, best wedding I've done for about 5 years.

Bride & Grooms playlist was spot on, mainly 80's & 90's with a smattering of scissor sisters type stuff.

Awsome night, buzzing for about a week thinking about it!

Some people don't want a traditional wedding and that extends to their reception, who are we as DJ's to say what is right or wrong, I give 'em what they want!

They want all the traditional etiquette - no problem!
They want a Rave - even better, and I've done a few like that!!

[PropellerHeadCase]

Heh, I politely suggested that a B&G re-think 'With or Without You' as a first dance, but they were adamant.

I agree, Tony. give'em what they want - I like Rave-y weddings, too.

[flatliners]

you should of suggested if you leave me now by eve mendes

[Corabar Steve]

Originally Posted by Hitched
Emailed our DJ yesterday saying that we wanted something different for our first dance and that we were considering something along the lines of Andy Williams - You're just too good to be true No such song exists.

If they don't even know the real title of the song they want for their first dance, then they don't really want one do they?

They seem to think this DJ is good despite everything. (just seems like an argumentative know-it-all to me)
When will people learn?

I must admit, I think (assuming they actually get the correct song (Can't take my eyes off you maybe?)) that it's quite a good idea to kick start the party.

(they could follow it with Theme from New York, New York, You'll never walk alone & Hey Jude :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj:)

[Tony Scott]

Just remembered, did a wedding on the easter weekend just gone, they had Andy Williams - Can't take my eyes for the first dance, then Barry White - First, Last, My Everything.
Went down a storm!

Ceiliedh Band for 2hrs, fantastic night, really good band & caller, crowd up for it after the band.

[Candybeatdiscos]

i did a wedding a couple of weeks back - they wanted Cascada - Everytime we touch (Candlelight Mix) Followed by DJ Sammy Heaven (Candlelight Mix) Followed by Yomanda Synth & Strings....You could tell i had a great night - Kept the majority on the flor most of the night - i even snuck in a 60's/70's set for the oldies and still kept the young un's up....

[simongreen.dj]

No such song exists.

I must admit, I think (assuming they actually get the correct song (Can't take my eyes off you maybe?)) that it's quite a good idea to kick start the party.


Hope you're joking there steve, so what if the punter doesn't know the 'exact' wording of a song title, it's our job to make sure that the right version gets played. As i've said in another couple of posts, I'm getting married myself in a couple of months and where thinking of having "(You're just too good to be true) Can't take my eyes off you" as our first dance for exactly those reasons, it's slow and smoochy at the start and uptempo and funky at the end. job's a goodun.




(they could follow it with Theme from New York, New York, You'll never walk alone & Hey Jude :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj:)

Also, I work in Merseyside and don't play You'll never walk Alone anymore, even if it's requested, after an everton fan dived onto my kit and bgrabbed the mic to voice his disaproval of the song. Thing i's i'm Blue so quite agreed with him but can't risk having my gear damaged over football...!!!

[Candybeatdiscos]

we have the same problem here - and for that reason - cant and wont play - You'll never walk alone or Tina's "The best"....

pity too

[CRAZY K]

What a nightmare!

Whilst I DO agree that it's the DJ's job to give his professional opinion about what he thinks will & won't work, this guy has taken it WAY too far.

He seems to think it's perfectly ok to do what HE thinks is best, with no regard for the clients who are paying him.

For example, he's trying to get them to change their first dance, and he's TOLD them that he will invite the family to join in with the first dance after the first minute.

From what you've said, he's VERY unprofessional...by refusing to meet them in advance & not even taking a deposit.

Finally, it's a big mistake to assume that he must be good just because he has a flashy website.

After all, I also have a very professional website, but I'm complete :Rob James: !!!

:D

Rob you forgot --NON REFUNDABLE Deposit or Booking Fee:D


crazy k

[rob1963]

Rob you forgot --NON REFUNDABLE Deposit or Booking Fee:D
Crazy k

Good point, Crazy! :D

[Corabar Steve]

I must admit, I think (assuming they actually get the correct song (Can't take my eyes off you maybe?)) that it's quite a good idea to kick start the party.



Hope you're joking there steve, so what if the punter doesn't know the 'exact' wording of a song title, it's our job to make sure that the right version gets played. As i've said in another couple of posts, I'm getting married myself in a couple of months and where thinking of having "(You're just too good to be true) Can't take my eyes off you" as our first dance for exactly those reasons, it's slow and smoochy at the start and uptempo and funky at the end. job's a goodun.
Simon, you just agreed with what I said. Why do you hope it's a joke?

I stand by what I said (prior to that) though, if they punter doesn't know the name of the track, it can't be that much of a special song to them.


(they could follow it with Theme from New York, New York, You'll never walk alone & Hey Jude :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj: :sj:)



Also, I work in Merseyside and don't play You'll never walk Alone anymore, even if it's requested, after an everton fan dived onto my kit and bgrabbed the mic to voice his disaproval of the song. Thing i's i'm Blue so quite agreed with him but can't risk having my gear damaged over football...!!!
Now that last quote was a joke hence the gratuitous use of grinning smilies, as a lot of people think of CTMEOY as an end of night song I suggested following it with others that are associated with the finale.

Obviously if you are in an area where playing a song associated with a certain football team could get you into trouble you avoid it like the plague, common sense really.

[soundmaster mobile disco]

from my experience you as a dj might not always like the brides choice for the first dance but as long as you tell everyone at the start of the dance that the first dance was specially selected by the bride and groom.
that way no one should be saying to themselves what the heck is he playing what a fool.

[djdarren]

did a first dance of "fat boy slim - rockafella shank" once
it was mad but it worked a charm and people were just not expecting it hence it added a nice twist to the night

[theoloyla]

Obviously if you are in an area where playing a song associated with a certain football team could get you into trouble you avoid it like the plague, common sense really.
Dead right! I have always avoided playing football team songs. Football fans just seem to be too intolerant and prone to violence - just as the media portray them - you know - morons!

[Flex]

Did a wedding on Friday where the groom had made a little montage for a first dance. First time I heard it was 10 min before I started. He gave me instructions as to what he wanted to happen during the songs and I duly complied. I introduced the Bride and Groom to a round of applause from the guests and we kicked of with Jack Johnson - Better Together. As that ended I asked everybody to join the couple on the floor and we went straight into The Timewarp. There were a couple of hasty retreats, however there was a healthy number couples up for it and with a little persuasion by myself and the Bride and Groom there was soon a full floor doing the time warp as that finished I instructed everybody to watch the Bride and Groom as they came to the front of the dance floor and we went straight into Greased Lightning. They both had learnt to do the hand jive steps from Grease and had everybody on the floor copying them. That then segued back into the last verse of Jack Johnson again. The Bride and Groom immediately started dancing together as if nothing had happened. It was a fantastic ice breaker. Its such a help if the Bride and Groom set an early example. If I get the chance its something I'd love to try and repeat.

[Tony Scott]

Did a wedding on Friday where the groom had made a little montage for a first dance. First time I heard it was 10 min before I started. He gave me instructions as to what he wanted to happen during the songs and I duly complied. I introduced the Bride and Groom to a round of applause from the guests and we kicked of with Jack Johnson - Better Together. As that ended I asked everybody to join the couple on the floor and we went straight into The Timewarp. There were a couple of hasty retreats, however there was a healthy number couples up for it and with a little persuasion by myself and the Bride and Groom there was soon a full floor doing the time warp as that finished I instructed everybody to watch the Bride and Groom as they came to the front of the dance floor and we went straight into Greased Lightning. They both had learnt to do the hand jive steps from Grease and had everybody on the floor copying them. That then segued back into the last verse of Jack Johnson again. The Bride and Groom immediately started dancing together as if nothing had happened. It was a fantastic ice breaker.
Its such a help if the Bride and Groom set an early example. If I get the chance its something I'd love to try and repeat.

Sounds like a top way to start!

People quite often want something different to set their wedding day apart from others. I find I'm getting more & more couples requesting up-beat 1st dances, it usually has a positive effect on the night!

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Sounds like a top way to start!

People quite often want something different to set their wedding day apart from others. I find I'm getting more & more couples requesting up-beat 1st dances, it usually has a positive effect on the night!

Funnily enough, the b&g on Saturday's wedding started with Jack Johnson - better together and then wanted 'Don't stop me now' as second song.

It did work to a certain degree as everyone did get up and dance, but then sat down after about 20 mins....

[theoloyla]

It always helps when the bride and groom dance. I am sure like me you have done gigs where you have lots of instructions from the b & g about what music they do and do not want and then after the first dance you never see them on the dancefloor again as they are too busy chatting or boozing.

[PropellerHeadCase]

Absolutely, Theo. I'm often tempted to ask Brides and Grooms whether or not they will be dancing. A couple of times Brides have said to me, "Oh, he's not much of a dancer', to which I reply "Well, lets ignore his requests then, eh?" which usually gets a laugh :D

[Dragonfly]

my wedding last week all set up ....... groom came over ....yes no problem leann rimes first dance cued up ready to go when you are..........

his question .... "could you please follow it straight after with engelbert humperdinks please release me"

riiiiiiiiiiight have you enjoyed your 4 hours of marriage chap?

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

It always helps when the bride and groom dance. I am sure like me you have done gigs where you have lots of instructions from the b & g about what music they do and do not want and then after the first dance you never see them on the dancefloor again as they are too busy chatting or boozing.

I had a pre-wedding meeting today with a B&G and he actually said to me, that although he wouldn't be dancing much, the music is still very important to him and an integral part of the night.

It's going to be an interesting one....a Scottish man marrying a Kenyan woman.

[Flex]

When having a pre-wedding meeting I now always try to mention to the B&G that its an enormous help if they and the best man/bridesmaids lead by example even if it just for the first few songs. There isnt a bloke in the world that would refuse a bride on her wedding day. It sends a powerful message to the guests that they are there to make sure the B&G have a great day. Having said that I had one a couple of weeks ago which was on a Sunday. It was a relatively small reception in Fife. I tried several times to meet up with the bride and groom but they never got back with a convienent time. So other than knowing what the first dance would be, I was pretty much in the dark. Just before the first dance, the grooms father wished me 'good luck as the average age here seems to be about sixty'. Not very encouraging. After the first two dances everybody scuttled back to their chairs and sat there limpit like for the rest of the evening. During a quick visit to the bar, the bored barman told me that most of the guests were from either Dundee or Edinburgh and because they were all driving nobody was drinking. I tried everything to no avail. The Bride and Groom gamely jumped up for the odd dance but were lucky if this prised more than a couple of folks to join them. While I was packing up the hotel owner warmly congratulated me on the gig and remarked on how hard it had been. She asked for cards and we chatted for a bit. The drive back to dundee was a matter of 10 mile or so across the Tay Bridge. So I was looking forward to a coffee and putting my feet up by about 01:10. Only to get to the bridge and discover that it was closed that night for repairs. So a quick 10 miles turned into a 55 mile slog.

Always do your research!!!

[Ricesnaps]

Did a wedding on Friday where the groom had made a little montage for a first dance. First time I heard it was 10 min before I started. He gave me instructions as to what he wanted to happen during the songs and I duly complied. I introduced the Bride and Groom to a round of applause from the guests and we kicked of with Jack Johnson - Better Together. As that ended I asked everybody to join the couple on the floor and we went straight into The Timewarp. There were a couple of hasty retreats, however there was a healthy number couples up for it and with a little persuasion by myself and the Bride and Groom there was soon a full floor doing the time warp as that finished I instructed everybody to watch the Bride and Groom as they came to the front of the dance floor and we went straight into Greased Lightning. They both had learnt to do the hand jive steps from Grease and had everybody on the floor copying them. That then segued back into the last verse of Jack Johnson again. The Bride and Groom immediately started dancing together as if nothing had happened. It was a fantastic ice breaker. Its such a help if the Bride and Groom set an early example. If I get the chance its something I'd love to try and repeat.

No offence here Flex, but two things come to mind here - based on the comments I ahve been hearing from brides.

1. Why did you only know about this 10 mins before hand - surely this is something that you discuss at a pre-wedding meeting?

2. Surely you're not suggesting the grrom gave you a CD he had "put together himself"?

[Flex]

No offence here Flex, but two things come to mind here - based on the comments I ahve been hearing from brides.

1. Why did you only know about this 10 mins before hand - surely this is something that you discuss at a pre-wedding meeting?

2. Surely you're not suggesting the grrom gave you a CD he had "put together himself"?


No offence taken but I was aware that this is what he wanted to do. As we discussed it several times during the booking process. Why shouldnt I play a CD that the groom wanted played as his first dance? The point we were discussing was that if someone wants to do something their way, we should make every atempt to accomodate. I hadnt heard it as he lives 55 miles from me and he hadnt finished it by the time I visited the venue for a meeting. I had a quick run through before we went for it. Do you think I'm daft or something?:bang:

[CRAZY K]

No offence here Flex, but two things come to mind here - based on the comments I ahve been hearing from brides.

1. Why did you only know about this 10 mins before hand - surely this is something that you discuss at a pre-wedding meeting?

2. Surely you're not suggesting the grrom gave you a CD he had "put together himself"?

Rice--back to basics--the customer is king and within reasonable, public decency and legal limits why not play a CD they give you?

Its what they want!

If its rubbish you just remind everyone whose it is:D :D :D

I dont have pre wedding meetings because all my gigs are long distance-however that doesnt stop a flow of interaction by phone and email prior to the day--followed up by a brief site meeting on arrival to finally agree plans for music and leaving at the end which surprise surprise often have changed and continue to change during the evening--no we arent doing the Wedding Arch anymore.

As long as you are professional and experienced enough (you certainly are) to deal with any changes on the day then I cant see a problem.

For my Wedding Saturday I have received very specific instructions by several emails--some people like to work that way.


CRAZY K

[theoloyla]

As long as you are professional and experienced enough (you certainly are) to deal with any changes on the day then I cant see a problem.



CRAZY K
And thats why they book a disco instead of a band - we are versatile and able to think on our feet and adapt.

[Ricesnaps]

No offence taken but I was aware that this is what he wanted to do. As we discussed it several times during the booking process. Why shouldnt I play a CD that the groom wanted played as his first dance? The point we were discussing was that if someone wants to do something their way, we should make every atempt to accomodate. I hadnt heard it as he lives 55 miles from me and he hadnt finished it by the time I visited the venue for a meeting. I had a quick run through before we went for it. Do you think I'm daft or something?:bang:

Sorry, I was trying to hint at something not be direct. Absolutely nothing wrong with playing a CD the groom gives you assuming that it's the original CD that he has paid good money for rather than a copy he downloaded from the net without paying for. That was all I was getting at.

Also now a little confused. If this was something you had discussed before hand, why couldn't you have organised the music for them yourself?

[Dragonfly]

Rice - Just a quick dilemma , you arrive at a wedding on Saturday set up everything working fine arch looks great and everything hunky dory ......

the groom for the day approaches hands you a cd "we have decided to change our first dance over breakfast this morning , but don't worry ive put it on cd for you its xxx by xxx (this just happens to be the one song in the world that you don't have in your collection) its a cd-wr that you are given .

do you ....

a. refuse to play it as you don't know its origin thus upsetting everyone before you start. remember its the first dance and thus the most important track of the evening.

b. its 3 minutes 12 seconds long shut your eyes press play and hope that no one taps you on the shoulder.

c. another solution?

what happens next?

[Corabar Steve]

Tell them your CD player won't play CDRs :sj:

[Ricesnaps]

Rice - Just a quick dilemma , you arrive at a wedding on Saturday set up everything working fine arch looks great and everything hunky dory ......

the groom for the day approaches hands you a cd "we have decided to change our first dance over breakfast this morning , but don't worry ive put it on cd for you its xxx by xxx (this just happens to be the one song in the world that you don't have in your collection) its a cd-wr that you are given .

do you ....

a. refuse to play it as you don't know its origin thus upsetting everyone before you start. remember its the first dance and thus the most important track of the evening.

b. its 3 minutes 12 seconds long shut your eyes press play and hope that no one taps you on the shoulder.

c. another solution?

what happens next?

See, what an interesting discussion point (which was really all I was trying to prompt).

I guess there are a couple of things for me personally, I make it absolutely clear at my client meeting that I need any last minute changes 7 days prior to the booking and that I cannot guarantee anything if they don't do that. So if I was to be true to my conditions, then I would probably go with option A as I would certainly have the track they originally asked me for.

However, life is never quite that simple is it. After all, I get sucked into playing for an extra hour without demanding the extra cash first don't I. I would like to think that I would explain to the couple at the time why it wasn't a good plan for me to play the track, I also wonder if the law would understand that I was playing a track on the assurance from the couple that it had been legally payed for. But you are correct, in the real world I am guessing most of us would close our eyes and play the track - but is that actually the correct thing to do?

As for "other" options, I reallr really do want eventually to get some form of live internet access at gigs - whether that be use of a hotel's wireless network, or a mobile operator service. That way there would be no problem. Log on to the tune provider of choice and download the paid for track!

[CRAZY K]

Tell them your CD player won't play CDRs :sj:

That doesnt always work Steve, years ago I had one CD player ( because I use mini Disc) and the Groom gave me a " client CD" to play out the blue.

My CD player wouldnt play it-so the Hotel Manager said no worries heres mine try this---it worked!

We put it through the PA :eek:

CRAZY K

[CRAZY K]

See, what an interesting discussion point (which was really all I was trying to prompt).

I guess there are a couple of things for me personally, I make it absolutely clear at my client meeting that I need any last minute changes 7 days prior to the booking and that I cannot guarantee anything if they don't do that. So if I was to be true to my conditions, then I would probably go with option A as I would certainly have the track they originally asked me for.

However, life is never quite that simple is it. After all, I get sucked into playing for an extra hour without demanding the extra cash first don't I. I would like to think that I would explain to the couple at the time why it wasn't a good plan for me to play the track, I also wonder if the law would understand that I was playing a track on the assurance from the couple that it had been legally payed for. But you are correct, in the real world I am guessing most of us would close our eyes and play the track - but is that actually the correct thing to do?

As for "other" options, I reallr really do want eventually to get some form of live internet access at gigs - whether that be use of a hotel's wireless network, or a mobile operator service. That way there would be no problem. Log on to the tune provider of choice and download the paid for track!

DJs are already doing this--its just a question of cost.

CRAZY K

[PropellerHeadCase]

He said CD-RW, and many CD-players won't play them ;)

Seriously, if someone proffers a CD they've burnt for the first dance and it's what they now want, the answer is simple... don't ask what it is or whether they own it - they have hired the equipment through which to play music, you're just the sound engineer for 3:12.

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

Rice - Just a quick dilemma , you arrive at a wedding on Saturday set up everything working fine arch looks great and everything hunky dory ......

the groom for the day approaches hands you a cd "we have decided to change our first dance over breakfast this morning , but don't worry ive put it on cd for you its xxx by xxx (this just happens to be the one song in the world that you don't have in your collection)

This happened to me two weeks ago.

I was handed a CD and told that they had changed their minds. I don't carry CD players, though I could have used the CD Rom on the lappy to play it. I ripped it on the computer in the end as I didn't have the track.

Not a lot else I could have done really.

[Flex]

Sorry Ricesnaps didn't realise you were being devils advocate there. However I have no idea whether the tracks were legally obtained or not. I can only assume they were. I get very irked at the casual way that people abuse copyrighted material whether its bootlegged cds or dvd's, but trying to explain that to a punter behind the decks isn't the place to start lecturing. I don't as a rule play tracks supplied by clients or guests, although it seems ad hoc requests to do this are on the increase. Ive had a couple of people spot the usb on the cortex and then ask if they could play a track of their ipod. I had an older gentleman at a wedding ask if I could play a tango he had on cd in his car. I didn't have any set dance music to speak of and said yes (I don't think I could have reasonably refused). When he came back the cd was obviously a copy as was the sleeve. I winked at him and said who's been buying dodgy copies then? He got a bit upset and told me he copies all his CDs one for the car and one for the house. I had to assure him I was only joking and play the track pronto. (it was awful by the way. Sounded like a chimpanzee bashing away on a broken Casio. Does anybody have any tips on a classy cd comp of ballroom dance music. I need to get one)

[Dragonfly]

Flex Ive got a couple of CDs by Victor Sylvester - ballroomy stuff.

[Shaun]

Does anybody have any tips on a classy cd comp of ballroom dance music. I need to get one)

Here you go (http://www.play.com/Product.aspx?title=3321816&r=CDJ&PRODUCT_TITLE=Ballroom+Dancing%3a+The+Essential+Co llection+(2CD)), double CD compilation for a fiver. Great value for money!.

[Penfold42]

I have a wedding booked in a few weeks and have spoke to the bride about playlist and first dance / song.
She replied......no first dance or speaches....:eek:
Apparently the grooms shy...I mean VERY SHY....
I did ask her in a nice way 'Why not?' and her reply was 'It's going to take all his bottle just to get married.'......

Now what......you know what's going to happen, right at the last minute after 6 pint's he's going to come up and say 'Have you got x?'

Playlist is fine - plenty of choice...we shall see!!!:)

[rob1963]

Apparently the grooms shy...I mean VERY SHY....


Sounds like the wedding night will be a hoot...not! :D

[Penfold42]

Sounds like the wedding night will be a hoot...not! :D

:lol:

Shy until he meet's up with his mates Ron Bacardi and Johnny Walker.....:D :D

[rob1963]

:lol:

Shy until he meet's up with his mates Ron Bacardi and Johnny Walker.....:D :D

:lol:

[PropellerHeadCase]

:lol:

Shy until he meet's up with his mates Ron Bacardi and Johnny Walker.....:D :D

T-T-Tequila!

[Penfold42]

T-T-Tequila!

Now you know it will get silly when that stuff get's out......'Have a loverly day tomorrow...NOT'...:D


A couple of times Brides have said to me, "Oh, he's not much of a dancer', to which I reply "Well, lets ignore his requests then, eh?" which usually gets a laugh :D

Back to were I was....if there's no first dance and the groom's not going to dance, also with no speaches, should i just play the list from the bride and hope she / music will get things moving or take loads of request's and plough through them or stick to what i would like to hear at a wedding.....?

Brides list -
Bryan Adams / Bon Jovi / Wham / George Micheal / 60's / Motown / Cheese.

[Tony Scott]

Back to were I was....if there's no first dance and the groom's not going to dance, also with no speaches, should i just play the list from the bride and hope she / music will get things moving or take loads of request's and plough through them or stick to what i would like to hear at a wedding.....?

Brides list -
Bryan Adams / Bon Jovi / Wham / George Micheal / 60's / Motown / Cheese.

I would just treat it like a normal b'day party, probably have a longer warm-up than at most weddings coz of no 1st dance.

There's never any guarantee that the floors going to stay full after the 1st dance anyway, some people are not ready to really get up till after the buffet anyway!

Sounds like a standard sort of playlist, something you can work with.

[Penfold42]

I would just treat it like a normal b'day party, probably have a longer warm-up than at most weddings coz of no 1st dance.

There's never any guarantee that the floors going to stay full after the 1st dance anyway, some people are not ready to really get up till after the buffet anyway!

Sounds like a standard sort of playlist, something you can work with.

Thanks for that.
Just a bit green with weddings.:)

List is standard, enough to work from...no problems there.
I don't mind telling you but i'm slighty nervous doing wedding's as this will be my second....1st was a last minute...no planning...lot's of running around.
Nervous because you can either make or break someones day....people always remember the thing's that went wrong....'We had a great day but the DJ was :Rob James: ' Get a lot of bookings on the back of that eh?

Thanks again.

[Tony Scott]

Thanks for that.
Just a bit green with weddings.:)

List is standard, enough to work from...no problems there.
I don't mind telling you but i'm slighty nervous doing wedding's as this will be my second....1st was a last minute...no planning...lot's of running around.
Nervous because you can either make or break someones day....people always remember the thing's that went wrong....'We had a great day but the DJ was :Rob James: ' Get a lot of bookings on the back of that eh?

Thanks again.

I've done hundreds of weddings but still have the same worries about messing up someones day.

To be honest after the first dance I try to get into my head that this is just a room full of happy, relaxed people that have had a great day, free food, lots of drink and are just wanting a good party.
When you look at it this way it seems a much less worrying task to perform.......works for me anyway!

[Ricesnaps]

I generally have a rule that helps me get through weddings. watch the bride (and the groom, but in particular the bride). Generally, if the brides on the floor, the it's all going well. If she's not, check to see if she's having fun - if not, maybe the time far a quick happieness check with the bride and groom.

if you get handed numerous bottle of champagne to take home though, chances are it's going well! lol!

[Penfold42]

I've done hundreds of weddings but still have the same worries about messing up someones day.

To be honest after the first dance I try to get into my head that this is just a room full of happy, relaxed people that have had a great day, free food, lots of drink and are just wanting a good party.
When you look at it this way it seems a much less worrying task to perform.......works for me anyway!

All piont's taken on board...:beer1:

Did someone mention food....!!!

[Flex]

Here you go (http://www.play.com/Product.aspx?title=3321816&r=CDJ&PRODUCT_TITLE=Ballroom+Dancing%3a+The+Essential+Co llection+(2CD)), double CD compilation for a fiver. Great value for money!.

Just the very thing, Cheers

[theoloyla]

Flex Ive got a couple of CDs by Victor Sylvester - ballroomy stuff.
So have I but unless it is geriatrics I am entertaining I rarely play them! For well recorded, modern, bright recordings in strict tempo you cant beat Ross Mitchell or Tony Crane IMHO