D.j's at your function

[electricnite]

Why is when your doing a wedding function and the groom is a d'j and acts a complete and utter idiot thinking he knows everything and basically tries to tell you how to do your job when really he hasn't got a clue. says that all his mates that are there are top d'j's and also acting like complete idiots too. should we as the professional have to put up with this

[DMX Will]

I had one guy like this last night - didn't claim he was a DJ though. Very annoying, but at the end of the day...what can we do?

It's hardly professional to tell them to "get lost" is it? Shame!!

[Dragonfly]

bad night then????? you get it , if they were all top djs there must have been one or 2 empty dancefloors somewhere last night????

don't worry it comes with the territory I'd say 80% of djs that attend functions are infinately better than the one being paid £300 to play :D :D :D

never bothers me that .....only dislike rude people (in which case I will excercise my right to reply) .......they are paying 100 qud for a headache im getting paid 3 times that to have fun and watch them make prize rodney wallaces of themselves!!!

[Excalibur]

Why is when your doing a wedding function and the groom is a d'j and acts a complete and utter idiot thinking he knows everything and basically tries to tell you how to do your job when really he hasn't got a clue. says that all his mates that are there are top d'j's and also acting like complete idiots too. should we as the professional have to put up with this

Last night the Gladiators Inflatable Fun Game operator turned out to be a DJ. Spent half the night putting up with him wanting to come and play with the disco, as it seemed more fun than his game.:bang:

[electricnite]

with the above what i'm getting at was last night at a top class venue the groom was a d'j (mm mm) all his mates were there who were the best d'j's in the area (mm mm) all acted like complete and utter bleeps with one of my d'js opening line to my d'j was " here this is what a want" im a d'j so a naa what am talking aboot" as he fell into the speakers at 6.55pm i want loads of cascadia (i mean how many songs did they do) bearing in mind its 7pm the disco finished at 1am. thats 4 songs on repeat for 6 hours, then the line comes out " see all these lads here they all top d'j's so if they ask for summit ye play it . reet ! if they all that good what they all doing with a night off on a saturday. these people give us good blokes a bad name and frankly pee's you right off. lets have your views on this and has it ever happened to you

[Tony Scott]

Yeah had that too in the past, can really get to you! :mad:

On a more possitive note had a wedding in March this year and the Brides brother is a DJ in some Swiss resort. He was an absolute gent, came up during the night for a chat and complimented me on my kit and DJing, really sound bloke.

Speaking to the Bride after they got back from honeymoon, turns out he is one of the top Wedding DJ's in Switzerland, obviously comfortable with himself and dosen't have to big himself up to other DJ's to make himself feel better. :)

[ross@rds]

Had this a couple of weeks ago with a young guy got the dreaded line "Hi im a dj as well" lol then he started saying turn your bass down a bit its too loud then staarted looking in my cd case "put this on they will all dance" just turned round and said well im the dj tonight ill do it my way. Then got told later by a guest i know that some one said his name when looking for a dj and no one wanted him to do it must not be as good as he thinks.

[Dragonfly]

if they all that good what they all doing with a night off on a saturday.

admittedly all of the norths top djs having a saturday off seems a tad unlikely but in direct answer to your question .......... attending a friends wedding !!!! which im sure we have all done :D :D

we do have to take a bit of stick doing the job we do ...... but as said ......... no one needs to be rude, if im asked nicely for things and given a little repect (as much as a person who is seeing 3 of me can give) then no complaints.

most djs critisize others and to be honest it doesnt sound as if he was being critical just saying if my friends ask for a request please play it ...... you have to remember that some people are slightly more educated and upto speed with curtousy and manners than other as well a articulate.

yes ok he felt the need to tell you he and his friends were top djs ........ is massive insecurity issues a crime now???

[electricnite]

it wasn't the asking it was the nastiness and the speaking there is just no need . if he says he's a d'j then he should respect the job that we are doing that night he would'nt like it if we came in to his pub/club or whatever and start being nasty and aggresive with him.

[Dragonfly]

it wasn't the asking it was the nastiness and the speaking there is just no need . if he says he's a d'j then he should respect the job that we are doing that night he would'nt like it if we came in to his pub/club or whatever and start being nasty and aggresive with him.

true and didn't he pick you to do the job in the first place????

[electricnite]

the disco comes with the venue he did'nt have a choice

[Dragonfly]

the disco comes with the venue he did'nt have a choice

aaaahhh which can I think put people on the offensive before you even get there .......... very little worse to some people in this world than removing their right to choose!

[Corabar Steve]

admittedly all of the norths top djs having a saturday off seems a tad unlikely but in direct answer to your question .......... attending a friends wedding !!!! which im sure we have all done :D :D I was gonna say something like that.


it wasn't the asking it was the nastiness and the speaking there is just no need . if he says he's a d'j then he should respect the job that we are doing that night he would'nt like it if we came in to his pub/club or whatever and start being nasty and aggresive with him.The last time I had a "DJ" try to tell me what to do I replied with something along the lines of "Then you'll know how irritating it is when somebody tells you how to do your job"


the disco comes with the venue he did'nt have a choiceMay be why he's a bit miffed, possibly wanted one of the other top DJs in attendance to do it.

Earlier this year we actually had a client change venue to use us, rather than take their DJ

[TONYTIGER]

I just tell them when they have been doing it as long as me come back and ill listen to there advice. Trouble is ill be dead. TONY TIGER

[Twinspin]

Id of played his requests. Then find out what the djs name is and say who its been requested by. Then if the dancefloor cleared. It would make him feel like a complete idiot.

[Corabar Steve]

Id of played his requests. Then find out what the djs name is and say who its been requested by. Then if the dancefloor cleared. It would make him feel like a complete idiot.

It wouldn't, this type of person would see it as your fault because you're the DJ.

[Dragonfly]

It wouldn't, this type of person would see it as your fault because you're the DJ.


absolutely Steve to be honest from the sounds of it im not sure this chap didnt go with the attitude " If I cant have who/what I want at my wedding then whoever is doing it is going to get a hard time"

think on those chaps and chapesses that post things like "I'll go to the party and give the dj a hard time" it really isn't a nice feeling and sometimes its a lose lose situation you are going to get a hard time whatever ......... anyone for merlot?????

[Excalibur]

aaaahhh which can I think put people on the offensive before you even get there .......... very little worse to some people in this world than removing their right to choose!

It's a no win situation. When I was resident in some places, I felt really miffed if people wanted to use their own man. When I was the non resident, I felt cheesed that I wasn't let in to work!

Having my cake and eating it I know, but there it is.

[rob1963]

The fact is that most people who say to us "I'm a DJ too mate" simply aren't.

What they probably mean is "I'm a bedroom mixer" or "I'd LIKE to be a DJ"

Next time someone says they're a DJ, if you want to know whether it's true, just ask them how much PLI they have, or what they pay for their PAT...and watch out for the blank face!

[Excalibur]

The fact is that most people who say to us "I'm a DJ too mate" simply aren't.

What they probably mean is "I'm a bedroom mixer" or "I'd LIKE to be a DJ"

Next time someone says they're a DJ, if you want to know whether it's true, just ask them how much PLI they have, or what they pay for their PAT...and watch out for the blank face!

Mine didn't know what type of amps he owned!

[rob1963]

Mine didn't know what type of amps he owned!

:bang:

[Vibrant Sounds]

Mine didn't know what type of amps he owned!

But, I suspect most club/pub DJs wouldn't know what sound equipment they were going through, neither would they have PLI or PAT.

Did they say they were 'mobile DJs'?

[rob1963]

But, I suspect most club/pub DJs wouldn't know what sound equipment they were going through, neither would they have PLI or PAT.

Did they say they were 'mobile DJs'?

Fair comment, Vibrant...but I think if they were a club DJ, they'd say "Club DJ" rather than just "DJ"...and they'd also probably say which club or clubs they worked at.

I could be wrong, but I think that's generally the case.

[Vibrant Sounds]

Fair comment, Vibrant...but I think if they were a club DJ, they'd say "Club DJ" rather than just "DJ"...and they'd also probably say which club or clubs they worked at.

I could be wrong, but I think that's generally the case.

I know, I was just being pedantic!

[rob1963]

I know, I was just being pedantic!

:moon: :boxer2: :lol:

[Dillmiester]

I have never felt the need to inform the DJ that I too play records. The only time I have spoken to a DJ at a party is to request a tune or to complement them.
I have had a few nasty comments over the years (sorry if this offends) its normally from the older generation frustrated ex DJ's.

When I first started out with mobile work I offerd to do a friends second wedding reception for the price of beer all night, just to test the rig out and make sure it worked etc. Two grumpy old men sat arms folded opposite me all night coming up to me every 20 mins saying things like;
"I wouldnt have played that"
"Why did you follow that song with this"
"Where is Kylie"
"Why are you on the internet" (they saw the laptop and assumed I was surfing)!
"We didnt need to use computers".

I was polite on the first few occasions but eventually they got me me and the red mist came. I explained that I was a friend of the bride and was doing this as a favour and by no means thought myself as professional yet. The conversation went on at which i offerd the bloke outside,,, ooops.

Another gig I remember was in a huge hall in which I was unhappy about the sound quality and spent most of the night trying to get the levels right. At the end of the night this chap came over and said "your bass had been distorting all night, thought I would let you know". WHAT,,,,,,,, you have waited all night to tell me that, thanks pal!

[dj steady]

the barman at one of my weekly regular venues used to be a D.J. and keeps coming up asking for obscure songs hoping i haven't got them....hasn't caught me out yet but becoming a royal pain in the rear...:eek:

[Excalibur]

But, I suspect most club/pub DJs wouldn't know what sound equipment they were going through, neither would they have PLI or PAT.

Did they say they were 'mobile DJs'?

Oh yes. Deffo wouldn't get through the door of a club, this one!:(

[Excalibur]

I know, I was just being pedantic!

That's a first on here, someone being pedantic, nitpicking and literal!:p

Goes to hide behind sofa, wishing he knew where ths sofa smiley was!

[Corabar Steve]

:sofa:
That's a first on here, someone being pedantic, nitpicking and picky!:p

Goes to hide behind sofa, wishing he knew where ths sofa smiley was!
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[theoloyla]

Some people can be irritating and it is generally them that we notice. It's like that Harry Enfield character who always says "You dont want to do that."

[Excalibur]

:sofa:
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Thanks, get a feeling I may need a robust one!:D

[Corabar Steve]

One of our semi regular clients told us he was a DJ before his first booking. He was suprised that we didn't have a problem with it, as most people he spoke to just put the phone down on him when he told them!

With people like this fella around you can see why!

[Excalibur]

Some people can be irritating and it is generally them that we notice. It's like that Harry Enfield character who always says "You dont want to do that."

I'm exactly like that, when I'm watching another DJ at work. I like to think I'm too polite to go up and tell then in a malicious or impolite way.

[theoloyla]

Didnt someone point out in another thread a few weeks ago that Rob looks like Harry Enfield?

[Key2]

OK, so I'm not doing the job yet, but how does this sound?

"I'll do what I can mate, but I'm using a playlist that was chosen by the guy paying me. You know what that's like, right?"

I guess that would be my way of defusing the situation. Blame the playlist on the person who is paying for your services.

John:D

[Shakermaker Promotions]

I usually say something like "I knew you would say something like that" or "If I had a £1 for every time I have heard that line I wouldn't have to work" and that usually gets a pause of silence before they ask for a tune or two. I try not to be rude but sometimes it really is hard. I mean, come on...what's the point?

It's like me going up to someone who drives a porsche and saying "I used to drive one of them!" and then waiting for them to say something...

"I used to be a DJ" or "I'm a DJ" - Well let's have a round of applause, bully for you!

Sorry but it's one of those things I hate. I posted something like this on another DJ forum a while back and all I got was grief because some people took it the wrong way...either that or they couldn't read properly. A few months back on a rare night off I had an invite to a mates 40th birthday party. When I got to the venue with my missus and a couple of friends I could not believe what I was seeing. Rope lights, 3 spot boxes on either side and a (very) small pair of speakers that were distorting big time on the floor (no stands). There was a laptop on view which was connected to a mixer that I have never ever seen before and these were laid out on top of a table which was covered by a black sheet.....on that sheet was the guys name and mobile number....written in CHALK!!!

I didn't have to say a word...my mates and missus started saying what I was thinking and I actually found myself sticking up for the guy. I made excuses like he may have just started and everyone has to start somewhere but I later found out that he cost them £60.00 and believe me, they got exactly what they paid for! Why didn't they pick me? They said that they wanted me there as a guest. As it happens I only stayed for an hour because I simply couldn't handle it anymore, the sound, the music selection, no'one dancing etc etc BUT...I would never have gone up to the guy and uttered those immortal words..."hi mate, I'm a DJ too"....as for just starting out...no way. It appears that the guy has been doing it for quite a while but has mentioned that he isn't getting the work....Erm..I wonder why!!?

[rob1963]

As far as I know, people don't go up to a barman at a wedding reception & say "I'm a barman too, mate"

They don't go up to a waiter & say "I'm a waiter too, mate"

They don't find the hotel manager & say "I'm a hotel manager too, mate"

...so what the :Censored: is it with us DJs?

...especially bearing in mind the low opinion so many people have of us!

:shrug:

[PropellerHeadCase]

"I'm a DJ, too, mate"
"Are you a professional DJ?"
"What do you mean?"
"I mean, are you going to belittle me and ask for ridiculous obscure music and generally sabotage the night or are we going to have a chat about the cheese and 'usual wedding music' and a have a few laughs at the expense of the enthusiastic but rhythmically challenged?"


Yes, wannabe DJs are the worst.

[Penfold42]

"I'm a DJ, too, mate"
"Are you a professional DJ?"
"What do you mean?"
"I mean, are you going to belittle me and ask for ridiculous obscure music and generally sabotage the night or are we going to have a chat about the cheese and 'usual wedding music' and a have a few laughs at the expense of the enthusiastic but rhythmically challenged?"


Yes, wannabe DJs are the worst.

:lol:

On my lauch night, I had a guy come up and said he was a DJ in the 70-80's.....didn't try to say do this and that...just gave loads of tips, although things have moved on....I asked him if he would like a go...but made for the bar instead.

A few weeks later another came up and was just a pain in the backside.....:mad: had to polite tell him I didn't have the time and was really busy......:)

Some you win some you lose....:)

[TONYTIGER]

How do you mean "things have moved on" in my experience the standard of djs has slipped to what it was to many jumping on the band wagon .ask yourself are you a carpenter if you put a few shelfs up at home a person who claims to be a dj does it soley as a living , which brings a lot of financal pressure and keeps you on your toes . Just had 4 calls this Sat dj not turned up can you help , this never use to happen. TONYTIGER

[PropellerHeadCase]

Then again, the guy that painted my house is a salesman - working for Maui Jim (sunglasses) AND a local landscaping/mature trees supplier.

Did a good job on the painting :D


But yes, DJing is something everyone wants to do, and there's very little stopping them from saying that they're a DJ and taking work.

[theoloyla]

I usually say something like "I knew you would say something like that" or "If I had a £1 for every time I have heard that line I wouldn't have to work" and that usually gets a pause of silence before they ask for a tune or two. I try not to be rude but sometimes it really is hard. I mean, come on...what's the point?

It's like me going up to someone who drives a porsche and saying "I used to drive one of them!" and then waiting for them to say something...

"I used to be a DJ" or "I'm a DJ" - Well let's have a round of applause, bully for you!


But people DO come up and say I used to drive one of those. Very often they are anoraks and will launch into questions about torque and BHP and rpm etc. Other tradespeople also introduce each other and often empathise about the job and pass on tips to each other. Why cant dj's without getting all defensive or rude and arrogant?

[PropellerHeadCase]

That's just it though, Theo, very often they aren't passing on tips or whatever, very often they're trying to prove themselves, most often to their mates, and most often at your expense. The number of times I've had a DJ come up for a 'one professional to another' converation I can count on the fingers of one finger. Wannabes on the other hand...

[Dragonfly]

But people DO come up and say I used to drive one of those. Very often they are anoraks and will launch into questions about torque and BHP and rpm etc. Other tradespeople also introduce each other and often empathise about the job and pass on tips to each other. Why cant dj's without getting all defensive or rude and arrogant?

very true theo I think a lot of djs on hearing the words "im mate i'm a dj too just pooped up to see what rig you're using

......actually hear .........

hi i'm a dj to ive just come up to tell you how toilet you are tonight and that everyone on my table is complaining about the music oh and you don't want that cd player mine is far superior and crikey they don't make lights like that anymore .

as ive said there are alot of djs who are not quite as eloquent and gracious in their approach as the gentlemen on here , but thats not to say they are being rude ...... its just how some people are.

last time I remember this happening a chap came up said he was a dj in a club in leicester and had only just managed to get the night off to go to the wedding and wondered what kit i used ....... had a 5 minute look round a little small talk ..... that was the last i saw of him ...... painless.

[theoloyla]

very true theo I think a lot of djs on hearing the words "im mate i'm a dj too just pooped up to see what rig you're using

......actually hear .........

hi i'm a dj to ive just come up to tell you how toilet you are tonight and that everyone on my table is complaining about the music oh and you don't want that cd player mine is far superior and crikey they don't make lights like that anymore .

as ive said there are alot of djs who are not quite as eloquent and gracious in their approach as the gentlemen on here , but thats not to say they are being rude ...... its just how some people are.

last time I remember this happening a chap came up said he was a dj in a club in leicester and had only just managed to get the night off to go to the wedding and wondered what kit i used ....... had a 5 minute look round a little small talk ..... that was the last i saw of him ...... painless.
Absolutely. Be nice and people usually respond in a similar manner. If you act the big I am they will resond differently.

[PropellerHeadCase]

very true theo I think a lot of djs on hearing the words "im mate i'm a dj too just pooped up to see what rig you're using

Well YOU might be happy with pooping near your equipment :eek: ;)

[Dragonfly]

Well YOU might be happy with pooping near your equipment :eek: ;)


sometimes i even amuse myself :D :D

(Daz & Steve no comments ) :D :D

[ian8limelight]

If you are giving some feedback to a DJ who is working at a function you are attending, make sure that it is constructive (i.e. as you would hope to receive it yourself).

[Corabar Steve]

sometimes i even amuse myself :D :D

(Daz & Steve no comments ) :D :D

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