Too many posh weddings, but......

[mutley]

some arragant people,

i have become astonished recently how beautiful & pleasant some of my wedding functions have been in such venue's
But its such a same when i feel the venue is let down, but the bride & grooms lack of polite behaviour, & the best mans, best man? whose he?

you get to the venue find the staff working there, whilst you say set up sometimes in another room, the best man, bride & groom know who you are as your maning the dj set, but it annoys me so many times when they never come up to you to say hi, or have you set up ok & is everything alright with the setup/venue arrangments.
i always say hello to either one of them, once i've found out who they are.

Then the bestman well, this seems like this job has gone with the times, & i so often find the photographer, many of times picking up the peices when it comes to arranging the first dance etc etc,

Also the B & G had about 3 domestics in front of the whole crowd, how stupid, of all days to be argueing.

Sometimes you can spot the bride in her big frock, but i feel uncomfortable (sometimes), not wanting to interrupt there meal or approaching her when she busy with guest & things, after all isnt that what the best man is for? But whose he???????????????:bang:

Then like last night the only words the bride said to me all night was 5 mins after midnight when we had finished, can we have one more!!! :mad: & no one thanked us at the end, then i had to wait whilst the B&G said goodbye to everyone as i waited around after packing down still to get paid

i would say the most polite & accomodating people disco's i've seem to meet are the cheaper qoutes in some mouldy smelling scout/church hall, where you constantly get offered drinks, & or food is all brought up to you - hows that for being handed it on a plate:D

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

you get to the venue find the staff working there, whilst you say set up sometimes in another room, the best man, bride & groom know who you are as your maning the dj set, but it annoys me so many times when they never come up to you to say hi,

Personally, I always approach the B&G, say hello and make arrangements for first dance timings etc. You might be waiting round all day for someone to approach you.

[ian8limelight]

In addition to Darren's comments, I personally will normally have spoken to them onece or twice before the function (normally by phone) so you get the beginnings of a communication and an understanding. Follow this up at the earliest opportunity when you arrive, etc, at the function.

[mutley]

yes i always make severals calls to B&G & always call the day before to see as sometimes happens if a last minute change to the fist dance - but this dont them ignoring you on the day!!!!

& mostly the the best man & close friends will dress exactly the same as the Groom:)

it all still rarely beats the other side of the arguement, a lower scale disco in a small hall....

[Dragonfly]

yes i always make severals calls to B&G & always call the day before to see as sometimes happens if a last minute change to the fist dance - but this dont them ignoring you on the day!!!!

& mostly the the best man & close friends will dress exactly the same as the Groom:)

it all still rarely beats the other side of the arguement, a lower scale disco in a small hall....

done one or two weddings like that myself :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

[TonyB]

To be honest I don't think its the Bride and Grooms job to run after you and ask if you've set up okay and if everything is alright. Its a very busy day for them and they have enough to do without pandering to every service provider.

You should also be able to recognise the bride from the pre function meeting which is a good time to get to know them a bit so they know who you are. Having the meeting at the venue is a good idea as you can get to know the person you should liase with when you get there. It is usually the venue manager or organiser who you have dealings with when you get to a venue.

Once set up and the musics started, then you can go and have a word with the B&G or organiser to check everything is okay and ask when they want the first dance.

It seams that the best mans job finishes when he has done his speech and consumed too much wine :-)

[Key2]

I haven't started doing my mobile disco's yet, but here are my observations, based on life experience and years of running businesses which are considered customer services, as much as anything else.

As has been said by others, not everyone has the people skills to walk up to a relative stranger and ask the questions that you have suggested. Also remember that, as a generalisation, the B&G are probably not very old and don't really know 'the form' for such events.

As for having a 'domestic', well that could be because it's the brides biggest day in her life, and with the stress, it is easy to over-react. Also consider this, the people that they are arguing in front of are mostly their family, who have seen it all before.

Perhaps, in the booking stages, you could have arranged the timing of such things as the first dance, and confirmed it in writing when you collected your deposit (or final payment). The same applies to charges for a late finish.

Weddings can be great, or great disasters. Stress and booze, not a good mix!

Just my thoughts, though.;)

John

[TonyB]

Perhaps, in the booking stages, you could have arranged the timing of such things as the first dance, and confirmed it in writing when you collected your deposit (or final payment). The same applies to charges for a late finish.

Weddings can be great, or great disasters. Stress and booze, not a good mix!

Just my thoughts, though.;)

John

I usually ask what time they want the first dance beforehand but am yet to do a wedding where the wedding breakfast doesn't overrun so things have to be rearranged.

[mutley]

Referring to the recent wedding yesterday, this was subcontracted out to me earlier in the week, so good idead with a pre-meeting at the venue, but not possible in this case, nor do to my other work was i able to meet them, to see their faces before hand & try & remember them on the day -

It again comes back to best men, becuase as you mentioned the B&G are doing other things, what? whats a best man do?!?!? :bang:

i would say from experience the best men like to get drunk & the B&G expense & let them down on their big day. Exceptions here to a very small few......

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

As has been said by others, not everyone has the people skills to walk up to a relative stranger and ask the questions that you have suggested.

Then they shouldn't be out there DJing if they haven't got basic skills of communication. Come on, if you can't speak briefly to a client, how are you going to use the mic and introduce the B&G on to the dance floor?

For gawds sake...:rolleyes:

[Solitaire Events Ltd]

I usually ask what time they want the first dance beforehand but am yet to do a wedding where the wedding breakfast doesn't overrun so things have to be rearranged.

That's the exact reason why I don't ask beforehand!

[Excalibur]

some arragant people,

i have become astonished recently how beautiful & pleasant some of my wedding functions have been in such venue's
But its such a same when i feel the venue is let down, but the bride & grooms lack of polite behaviour, & the best mans, best man? whose he?

you get to the venue find the staff working there, whilst you say set up sometimes in another room, the best man, bride & groom know who you are as your maning the dj set, but it annoys me so many times when they never come up to you to say hi, or have you set up ok & is everything alright with the setup/venue arrangments.
i always say hello to either one of them, once i've found out who they are.

Then the bestman well, this seems like this job has gone with the times, & i so often find the photographer, many of times picking up the peices when it comes to arranging the first dance etc etc,

Also the B & G had about 3 domestics in front of the whole crowd, how stupid, of all days to be argueing.

Sometimes you can spot the bride in her big frock, but i feel uncomfortable (sometimes), not wanting to interrupt there meal or approaching her when she busy with guest & things, after all isnt that what the best man is for? But whose he???????????????:bang:

Then like last night the only words the bride said to me all night was 5 mins after midnight when we had finished, can we have one more!!! :mad: & no one thanked us at the end, then i had to wait whilst the B&G said goodbye to everyone as i waited around after packing down still to get paid

i would say the most polite & accomodating people disco's i've seem to meet are the cheaper qoutes in some mouldy smelling scout/church hall, where you constantly get offered drinks, & or food is all brought up to you - hows that for being handed it on a plate:D

And you've just worked this out? :D The higher grade function is populated by the rudest people, as a rule.:bang:

[Dragonfly]

And you've just worked this out? :D The higher grade function is populated by the rudest people, as a rule.:bang:

I only find this if they think you are of a lesser evolutionary ranking than them ..................... which no one gets to believe trust me.

[soundtracker]

Then they shouldn't be out there DJing if they haven't got basic skills of communication. Come on, if you can't speak briefly to a client, how are you going to use the mic and introduce the B&G on to the dance floor?

For gawds sake...:rolleyes:

Absolutely spot on Daz - mind you, my daughter was at a posh wedding event yesterday (She was waitressing) and came home with tales of the wedding DJ turning up in Jeans & T-shirt - so not only do they not have communication skills, but no sense of etiquette either. My advice would be, if you're intimidated by posh/rich people - stick to the working mens clubs, and leave them to the professionals.

[Vectis]

I turn up in (black) jeans & polo shirt....

... once we're set up it's tux time

Would never dream of staying casual unless invited to (as has happened once or twice when pushed for time)

[Excalibur]

I only find this if they think you are of a lesser evolutionary ranking than them ..................... which no one gets to believe trust me.

Are you saying you're a snob?:D

[Excalibur]

Absolutely spot on Daz - mind you, my daughter was at a posh wedding event yesterday (She was waitressing) and came home with tales of the wedding DJ turning up in Jeans & T-shirt - so not only do they not have communication skills, but no sense of etiquette either. My advice would be, if you're intimidated by posh/rich people - stick to the working mens clubs, and leave them to the professionals.

It's not a question of that. Whatever happened to basic courtesy and politeness? Wearing smart attire is our way of being polite. Jeans and a t-shirt would be impolite to say the least.
Too many folk with a couple of bob in their pocket simply will not be courteous to " hired help" . No matter what you say, Dragonfly, that is what you are sometimes viewed as. However, we do get the lovely ones, was once at an 18th bash, and birthday boy's Dad came up to Steel Band and myself and said-" Tonight, you are all guests, same as everybody else. Anything you want, drinks, food,etc, you get. Do not wait to be asked." Doesn't often happen, but when it does it's nice.

[Dragonfly]

Are you saying you're a snob?:D


absolutely :D :D :D :D :D :D

[robbiedj]

We always send requirement sheets with the contract.

One is a basic function requirements.
It asks for dress code ( black tie, smart party or themed), a space for music requests (not too large, try not to encourage a whole evening's playlist), name of celebrant(s) and, for anniversaries and birthdays, actual date of the celebration. This is to customise with a couple of tracks like no.1 on your birth date or wedding day. We also ask if haze is required and permitted by venue.

The second sheet is for weddings/unions and asks for names of the couple, best man, chief bridesmaid etc. Obviously the track required for 1st dance, father/daughter and mother/son if wanted. Also any special track for couples departure.
They can specify if white lighting is required for 1st dance (getting more and more popular).
We also ask for approximate times for all highlights of the event so we have a rough idea prior to the day then check at the venue if they are on time or have changed the timing.

Most of the time these notes are enough to ensure there are no problems on the day, although B&G have been known to change 1st dance 3 times beforehand.

But it does help to have all the names in hand and know how they prefer to be addressed eg Patricia may be known as Pat, Patsy, Tricia etc by family and friends so would like that to be used.